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The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
OK, I've got a situation here that I don't believe I have the willpower to resist.
It has been nearly 8 years since I have sucked a cock. In the 5+ years leading up to that point, I had a string of one-off encounters, a few of which I enjoyed but most of which didn't live up to the fantasy. For that reason, along with having gotten married since then, I believed that my days of exploring cock were over. However, the fantasy of sucking cock has returned and only grown stronger in the past couple of years. I've connected with some guys online and toyed with the idea of meeting up, but never went through with it as the logistics were never convenient, so it was easy to "behave" and believe that I was just doing that to stoke my fantasies.
Fast forward to this week. I had made a post on Doublelist a few weeks ago to see what might come of it, not expecting it to amount to anything real. I had forgotten about it when out of the blue, I got a response yesterday and in chatting with the guy, he checks every single box on my list. He's divorced and mostly "straight", only has relationships with women but enjoys receiving head from guys since he says they do it better and doesn't reciprocate. (Check). He sent me some pics and he has an incredible looking cock and balls, all nicely shaved/trimmed. (Check) He also told me that he shoots huge loads -- like up to ten "ropes"; I've never had a heavy cummer but it's been a huge fantasy for me. (Check). He used to have a regular cocksucker and would really like to have that again -- another big fantasy of mine. (Check). He enjoys slow, sensual blow jobs, not rushed. (Check) I found his Facebook page and he's a decent looking, clean cut, seemingly pretty normal guy. Although I'm not attracted by guys' looks (it's about the cock), I am repulsed by guys who are nasty looking, unkempt or creepy. (Check). And for the clincher, the dude lives about 10 min away, literally on the way to the gym I go to. (CHECK!) So my imagination begins running wild and I'm envisioning a scenario where, once, twice, or more times a week I'm headed off to the gym and on the way, I pull into his neighborhood, give him a mind-blowing blow job and take his massive load, and then go to the gym energized by my pre-workout protein shake.
I'm defenseless here. This could be just too easy...there's got to be a catch. We've tentatively agreed to meet in a couple of days. I'm afraid I'm going to go through with it and enjoy it a bit too much. I've got butterflies thinking I may be at his place in a couple of days, kneeling before him, about to devour his manhood.
So, let's hear from you guys.... either talk me out of it or hold me accountable for going through with it! What should I do?
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
Well, only one way to find out if he's for real or if there are any catches. What scares you about going through with it? Then, what would allay those things? Yeah, if it sounds too good to be true and all that but if you don't see it through, how would you know? I know if guy checked all of my boxes (not that I have a lot of them), I'd check him out just to satisfy my curiosity and, at the very least, I get to suck some dick.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
Oh heck yes do it, never look a gift horse in the mouth, JUST open yours
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
If I found someone that checked all of the boxes, I?d be all over it!
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
An enviable problem indeed!
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
KDaddy23
Well, only one way to find out if he's for real or if there are any catches. What scares you about going through with it? Then, what would allay those things? Yeah, if it sounds too good to be true and all that but if you don't see it through, how would you know? I know if guy checked all of my boxes (not that I have a lot of them), I'd check him out just to satisfy my curiosity and, at the very least, I get to suck some dick.
Most of my "concern" has to do with the fact that I'm married and in the "bi closet". My wife has very strong negative views on any flavor of LGBT, etc and she has particular distain for bi-sexual people. Any time I might have been tempted over the past several years to actually meet someone, there were other considerations that served as deterrents (impractical schedules, no place to meet, geography, etc), and when those temptations would pass, I was "relieved" that I could still say that I had never fooled around on her. This time, there are no logistical obstacles in the way and the allure is just to too strong to resist. So, the odds are that I will, indeed meet this man and once it happens, there will be no stopping me from becoming his regular cocksucker and wanting it as often as I can get it. On one hand, it will be a thrill of a lifetime; on the other hand, I will have to come to terms with my duplicity. Of course, every time he feeds me one of those huge loads, it will all be worth it, right?
If I weren't married, I'd be at his place sucking him at this very moment with zero reservations.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
BeauKnerr
Most of my "concern" has to do with the fact that I'm married and in the "bi closet". My wife has very strong negative views on any flavor of LGBT, etc and she has particular distain for bi-sexual people....If I weren't married, I'd be at his place sucking him at this very moment with zero reservations.
You have a marital problem of being married to a woman that is adverse to who you are. I am not sure how anyone here can address that.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
BeauKnerr
Most of my "concern" has to do with the fact that I'm married and in the "bi closet". My wife has very strong negative views on any flavor of LGBT, etc and she has particular distain for bi-sexual people. Any time I might have been tempted over the past several years to actually meet someone, there were other considerations that served as deterrents (impractical schedules, no place to meet, geography, etc), and when those temptations would pass, I was "relieved" that I could still say that I had never fooled around on her. This time, there are no logistical obstacles in the way and the allure is just to too strong to resist. So, the odds are that I will, indeed meet this man and once it happens, there will be no stopping me from becoming his regular cocksucker and wanting it as often as I can get it. On one hand, it will be a thrill of a lifetime; on the other hand, I will have to come to terms with my duplicity. Of course, every time he feeds me one of those huge loads, it will all be worth it, right?
If I weren't married, I'd be at his place sucking him at this very moment with zero reservations.
Yes, that is a problem and a very major one a lot of guys have. This is why you contemplate risks versus rewards. Is getting this guy worth fucking some shit up for you? If the answer is no, don't even go there and no matter how tempting it is. Because at the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and deal with the consequences of your actions that might show up. Tough decision to make in this situation... but I know men who have not only made it but were able to justify to themselves why making it was in their best interest. If you can't, then don't. Doesn't get any easier than this. But if you do, can you live with it?
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
Jozyxt
You have a marital problem of being married to a woman that is adverse to who you are. I am not sure how anyone here can address that.
I'm sure a substantial share of the members here are in precisely the same predicament.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
I would just go and meet the guy. I feel sorry for you that you are married to a narrow-minded bigot.
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Originally Posted by
csreef
I would just go and meet the guy. I feel sorry for you that you are married to a narrow-minded bigot.
Thanks. I’m feeling like it’s inevitable that I’ll meet the dude. It’s just too good of an opportunity to pass up. As for my wife, yea that sucks. She’s highly sensual, kinky and sexually adventurous, so you’d think she’d be open-minded about shit like this, but no…hell no.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
KDaddy23
Yes, that is a problem and a very major one a lot of guys have. This is why you contemplate risks versus rewards. Is getting this guy worth fucking some shit up for you? If the answer is no, don't even go there and no matter how tempting it is. Because at the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and deal with the consequences of your actions that might show up. Tough decision to make in this situation... but I know men who have not only made it but were able to justify to themselves why making it was in their best interest. If you can't, then don't. Doesn't get any easier than this. But if you do, can you live with it?
Thanks. And yes, you?re exactly right as to the calculus involved. The challenge lies in whether the big head or the little head is running the spreadsheet and assigning weights to the variables. Lol But yea, major potential implications, which is why it?s such a conflicting issue.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
BeauKnerr
Thanks. I’m feeling like it’s inevitable that I’ll meet the dude. It’s just too good of an opportunity to pass up. As for my wife, yea that sucks. She’s highly sensual, kinky and sexually adventurous, so you’d think she’d be open-minded about shit like this, but no…hell no.
I'm sure her outlook would be different if she had her Pussy eaten out by a woman. :rolleyes: :2cents:
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
csreef
I'm sure her outlook would be different if she had her Pussy eaten out by a woman. :rolleyes: :2cents:
I think you?re right. She does love to be eaten out and I could see her conceding to allow another women to do it to her if that turned me on. But I don?t think that would change her views on m2m contact, which she finds revolting. I?ve learned this by seeing how she reacts to simple things. As an example, for any Ozark fans out there, she recoiled in disgust during the few scenes where Russ Langmore and FBI Agent Petty were getting it on, exclaiming, ?Why do they have to have this gay shit on here??. And now I?ve noticed, out of the corner of my eye, that she watches me to see how I react to such scenes, as if she?s gauging whether I like it or not. It?s as if she suspects something, even though I fuck the living daylights out of her pretty much every day. She equally watches me for clues of interest in other women. I think she?s just very insecure.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
I think the answer is easy.............are you ready to lose your marriage ?
I get some of the answers against her and her views, but the reality, there was enough about her you married her, you made a choice at some point that the positives outweigh the negatives.
So you have the years of marriage at risk, for an hour of something that could be. The only person who can decide the value of that, is you, not any of us. The only real discussion, and I mean no offense, are you willing to be honest with yourself as to the answer.
I could see myself finding a woman that giving up the way I am to be with her, I would do it.............but that would be the correct answer for me, not necessarily you.
I wish the best to you
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Originally Posted by
Jazminedress
I think the answer is easy.............are you ready to lose your marriage ?
I get some of the answers against her and her views, but the reality, there was enough about her you married her, you made a choice at some point that the positives outweigh the negatives.
So you have the years of marriage at risk, for an hour of something that could be. The only person who can decide the value of that, is you, not any of us. The only real discussion, and I mean no offense, are you willing to be honest with yourself as to the answer.
I could see myself finding a woman that giving up the way I am to be with her, I would do it.............but that would be the correct answer for me, not necessarily you.
I wish the best to you
Thank you. You made some great “no bullshit” points, which prompt me to wonder “WTF am I doing? ”
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
This sounds like the perfect scenario, and will be very difficult to resist as time goes on.
Jasmine?s input notwithstanding, I would have great difficulty resisting this opportunity.
Keep us posted OK?
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
Got a response to an ad on the same site from a guy that checks my boxes. Married, straight, decent shape, nice looking cock. Problem is he works from home and so does his wife, so the urge hasn't hit him strong enough to sneak out of the house to "run an errand" yet. Been several months and I'm still daydreaming about being on my knees as his cock slides past my lips. I keep in touch every so often but haven't been able to get him here.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
I agree with the others that this seems a golden opportunity and I suspect you may have a hard time passing it up without being plagued by lasting regret. Why should your full enjoyment of life being held hostage to her antiquated prejudices? If you establish an ongoing thing with this guy and are very discrete about it how does that take anything away from her? Sounds like it's time to do an impartial cost/benefit analysis and draw some conclusions. I used to be in the same boat but not in decades now and we're both still married and into year 36 so it can be done. Let me know if I can offer any advice and good luck!
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
SlowNEZ
This sounds like the perfect scenario, and will be very difficult to resist as time goes on.
Jasmine?s input notwithstanding, I would have great difficulty resisting this opportunity.
Keep us posted OK?
Thanks and I will certainly post any updates!
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
licyou69
Got a response to an ad on the same site from a guy that checks my boxes. Married, straight, decent shape, nice looking cock. Problem is he works from home and so does his wife, so the urge hasn't hit him strong enough to sneak out of the house to "run an errand" yet. Been several months and I'm still daydreaming about being on my knees as his cock slides past my lips. I keep in touch every so often but haven't been able to get him here.
Yes, that's typically how it's played out for me. There have typically been logistical complications that have made it impossible or just too inconvenient which, as I noted, served to keep me from acting out. But occasionally the stars line up like they seem to have for me in this case. Hopefully they will for you too.
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Originally Posted by
Neonaught
I agree with the others that this seems a golden opportunity and I suspect you may have a hard time passing it up without being plagued by lasting regret. Why should your full enjoyment of life being held hostage to her antiquated prejudices? If you establish an ongoing thing with this guy and are very discrete about it how does that take anything away from her? Sounds like it's time to do an impartial cost/benefit analysis and draw some conclusions. I used to be in the same boat but not in decades now and we're both still married and into year 36 so it can be done. Let me know if I can offer any advice and good luck!
You're right... if I were to pass this opportunity up, I'm sure I'd be kicking myself down the road. This dude and I have tentatively agreed to meet tomorrow afternoon. At this point, I fully expect to hold up my end of the deal. Hopefully he will as well. I'll post an update either way.
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
I would love to suck a cock, right now I don't think my wife would be adverse to me doing it,as that and me being fucked by a guy is what I whisper in her ear as we make love ,and gets her massive orgasms. I would go for it if you think it won't end your marriage. If he reads this,I would love to suck biChazmans cock!
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
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Originally Posted by
Warren63
I would love to suck a cock, right now I don't think my wife would be adverse to me doing it,as that and me being fucked by a guy is what I whisper in her ear as we make love ,and gets her massive orgasms. I would go for it if you think it won't end your marriage. If he reads this,I would love to suck biChazmans cock!
Wish my wife were as open-minded as yours. I really can’t complain because she’s a sexual dynamo with an off the chart sex drive who likes to do lots of kinky shit. But unfortunately, she didn’t come with the bi-friendly option — worse yet she came with the bi-hostile package. Give your wife a high five for me. : )
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Originally Posted by
SlowNEZ
This sounds like the perfect scenario, and will be very difficult to resist as time goes on.
Jasmine?s input notwithstanding, I would have great difficulty resisting this opportunity.
Keep us posted OK?
Its always okay when we disagree, having different opinions and listening to each other is how we grow as people
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
You can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out 'yes' or 'no.' Relax and turn off the calculator for a while: neither try to make it happen nor resist it if it's perfect. You may find that right as you're about to turn in to his place you just don't, or you may find yourself driving there without consciously deciding to do it. The ideal is to just have sucking a friend's cock as part of your normal course of life, right? That means it's easy and no big deal. If it becomes a big deal or requires huge effort and emotional angst to keep doing it, then what's the point?
As for risk to your marriage ... again, if it's chill and part of your normal routine, then it won't ever come up. Your wife can sense if your emotional core is distracted from her, but if you're interested in cock just for the cock then she's still your emotional center. If it becomes so important to you that it takes you literally away from your home, then that's another story and suggests something else entirely.
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Originally Posted by
Jazminedress
Its always okay when we disagree, having different opinions and listening to each other is how we grow as people
Jasmine, I wholeheartedly agree with your post about the risk to the marriage of a dalliance. (That is the main reason that I remain a bi-virgin).
However there are times that, if the ideal opportunity as described in this thread became available, it would be very difficult for me to resist the urge to give him a try.
So, I support your admirable opinion, and also recognize that human desires can become overwhelmingly strong.
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Originally Posted by
SlowNEZ
Jasmine, I wholeheartedly agree with your post about the risk to the marriage of a dalliance. (That is the main reason that I remain a bi-virgin).
However there are times that, if the ideal opportunity as described in this thread became available, it would be very difficult for me to resist the urge to give him a try.
So, I support your admirable opinion, and also recognize that human desires can become overwhelmingly strong.
That is the kicker isnt it, seems to be no matter the orientation
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Re: The perfect storm...I'm defenseless. What would you do?
this can have no good outcome.
I suggest you send him my email address:
vikingsdontcare@hotmail.com
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Originally Posted by
happystick
You’re too late. I already sent him to honeybadgerdoesntgiveashit@fuckoff.com.