Hurt me?

It's now 3 months that I've been with my latest lover. Lately I've been living with him at his place. He is the best lover I have ever had. He was initially attracted to me "in femme" and still likes when I dress for him, but it's not required by either of us. One of the great things about being with him is his attention to my needs as the bottom, including routinely holding me and cuddling post intercourse, which often leads to a second or third round before we both have calmed down.

One night last week, after a rather intense fuck, I was curled up in his lap when he absent-midedly (I think) slapped my ass. I've always enjoyed a spanking and my voalization and body shift let him know it and within a few moments I was bent over his knees and receiving a solid spanking, interrupted by questions as to my desires and state of arousal, which in time led to a major orgasm. I reciprocated by sucking him to completion before we both fell into a very satisfied sleep.

The next day we had a long conversation about what happened and mutually decided to explore a bit, which led to a spate of online catalog reading, further discussion, a "let's fuck" break and some more catalog scanning and some purchases.

Currently we are awaiting delivery of some wrist and ankle restraints, a ball gag, some butt plugs and some nipple clamps. We've already established the ground rules for this scenario, not the least of which is the safe word and or sign. Between the nipple play we already indulge in, and the highly erotic response generated by that late night spank fest, I am quite excited by the prospect of entering a deeper submission space than I've ever been to before.

So here's the motive for reavealing all this. Question: Has anyone else here been into the BDSM scene? If yes, care to share?

My 2nd ex wife used to tie my wrists ankles to opposite corners of the headboard. She would then start wedging pillows underneath me until she got me in the perfect position for her strap on and she'd proceed to fuck me until she couldn't go no more. I'd be so sexually charged up that once she made me cum, I'd be seeing stars.
I'd love to find a man to be comfortable doing that with, can only imagine what it would be like having him breeding me like that.

My shopping cart at an online sex toy store now includes a suede flogger. I hope my lover gets the hint and orders it for our mutual experimentation...me receiving of course!

I've played with others who are into BDSM & I'd lightly spank or flog etc, but I didnt like inflicting real pain or severe bondage even when that was what they wanted. All's fair etc etc but inflicting real pain is just not for me.

Now I do have fantasies about being bent over a table by a roomful of hot guys who keep me there while my mouth & ass get used, but so far I've not been brave enough to actually go through with it beyond one occasion with 3 others. That was fun.