Slam, Bam, Thank you...Or?

Just to clear up terms before the question. If I open my legs and let you in I consider that fucking. You may be fucking me, but I'm also fucking you. Now on to the question: Whether top or bottom, are you a blow and go, a slam, bam, thank you ma'am kind of guy, or do you prefer long, slow and extended fuck sessions or blow jobs? For me, I like the ups and downs of a slow, extended loving session with plenty of body contact, kissing and fondling both before and even after that first orgasm. Many times that leads to more fucking and more cumming. What about you?

i love when with another guy in bed making love not wham bam thank you nice slow love making sex i am a bottom only and love being treated like woman in bed with a guy

I'm more of a "go with the flow" kind of guy; we can blow and go or, if time allows, we can take all the time we might need. I grew up in a "wham, bam, thank you, ma'am" sexual era where, when it came to guys, the sooner the deed was done, the better and, in retrospect, it tended to work well since guys would cum and, well, y'all know how that goes. The only guys who wanted to "take all day" doing it were the effeminate gay guys, which a lot of us avoided because they were too much like girls trying to have sex with them when, really and honestly, all most guys wanted to was to get their shit off and without the hassles involved with females and their male counterparts.

But if you were on your sex game, you learned how to go hard and fast and soft and slow with both guys and gals since, most of the time, it wasn't all about what you wanted to do but what they wanted from you and if you wanted to bust a nut in them, well, you either went along with it or you declined and went looking for someone who wanted to do it the way you wanted to. Blow and go, even back in the day for me, was frowned upon but I would later learn that it was frowned upon because guys didn't understand what was behind this very fucked up way to behave and when you wanted to "go all day long" and the other guy would cum and vanish like smoke on the wind.

Sometimes, you just want to cum/make the other guy cum and go on with the rest of your day; sometimes you don't have the time for an extended session and, sometimes, you just didn't feel like taking "all fucking day" to bust a nut and if you had a "lovemaking preference," well, you could find yourself disappointed a lot because of the difference between what you want and what others are willing to provide. The blow and go, for the longest time for my opening era, was the "preferred" way to have sex with a guy and more so when there was "empirical data" proving that the longer you took doing it, the greater the chance you could get caught in the act. It was... easier to get each other off quickly, rest for a few minutes, and get right back to it if you (a) had the time and (b) you were in a place where the chances of getting caught were low.

When I had my effeminately gay boyfriend, he liked both: Wham bam and taking a long time and, as I would learn, depending on how he was feeling. It got to a point where I didn't feel like guessing how he wanted to have sex and I'd ask him because, one day, I'm going soft and slow with him and he blurts out, "Will you stop fucking around and make me cum!" and he was not happy with being "made love" to and... sheesh. These days, I'm not of a mind to want to spend all day sucking dick and getting into edging - but I could if needed. I would hazard the guess that my sexual upbringing kinda "ruined" me in a way because on many occasions, sex with guys was better than sex with girls because you didn't have to go through all of the shit girls demanded of you when all you wanted to do was to bust a nut and go on about the rest of your day - and even if that meant hooking back up later in the day.

I've only bottomed once, it wasn't wham bam, but it wasn't a long session either. The next time that I'm with a guy, I want it to be a long session, with a lot of mutual sucking before he fucks me. As a "straight" married man, I want to take my time enjoying what I shouldn't be enjoying. I want to take my time sucking another man's cock and balls. Then I want him to fuck me for as long as possible. I want his long, thick cock sliding in and out of me, hopefully making me cum hands-free before buries his cock in me and pumps me full of cum.

When I say that I love ❤️ it all I mean hot sweaty frenzied hard FUCKING , and very very long drawn out screaming hot erotica sexual encounters , and I see it that way to no matter who is doing the topping or who is doing the bottoming both are FUCKING

I'm still new at bottoming, but I find once I relax enough to let a cock inside me, I want to enjoy the ride.

For me, it's start slow and ease in, then you can increase the speed. But rough is never the goal.

I am with the op biguy. No wam bams but doesn't mean you can't fuck hard during a longer love making session on occasion!

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Originally Posted by biguycancun

Just to clear up terms before the question. If I open my legs and let you in I consider that fucking. You may be fucking me, but I'm also fucking you. Now on to the question: Whether top or bottom, are you a blow and go, a slam, bam, thank you ma'am kind of guy, or do you prefer long, slow and extended fuck sessions or blow jobs? For me, I like the ups and downs of a slow, extended loving session with plenty of body contact, kissing and fondling both before and even after that first orgasm. Many times that leads to more fucking and more cumming. What about you?

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I much prefer the long slow fucking with some serious rough fucking near the end. The rougher he is, the better I like it and I would like it for the whole fucking to last for at least 20 to 30 minutes!!

I tend towards passionate, affection sex with my bottom friends so quickies are not my thing. I want lots of holding, touching, kissing and other foreplay before we fuck. Once I get in him, I'll play his body like a musical instrument and give him all the pleasure I can before we part.

It depends. Sometimes a quickie in the shower is all my husband and I might have time for when the mood strikes us before work. It’s nice and we both enjoy it, or when he bends me over the counter in the morning when I’m getting coffee ready. We do make a point to have “naked Sunday” though, usually spending the day in bed watching movies and making love, getting to take our time. I prefer the deep and slow sessions where we can change positions, long kisses, and exploration. I also like the we got 10 minutes and it’s going to sound like sprinting in flip flops back there for a quick minute.

Just depends ilike a long session if i have time but on most times its just maybe 1 or 2 hrs