are you a liarsexual

[Long Duck Dong]

the terminology of a liarsexual is a person of any sexual orientation that is not so much closeted, but unwilling to reveal to themself or their partner, family, friends, that they are actually sexually attracted to different sexual acts, genders or sexualities other than what they protray themselves to be

unlike a person that may be of a different sexuality than they appear, a liarsexual is a person that will act on their impulses and indulge themselves sexually or otherwise, but totally deny actively, any involvement in any act or interest outside of what they wish to appear

this term actually applies to ANY person has a sexual interest that is not confined to purely human sexual contact.. it can refer to other aspects such as anime / hentai / cartoon sex, beastiality / zoophilia, pedophilia, in fact any of the vast range of sexual attractions that a human can experience

unlike the term closeted, which refers to people that are aware of their sexuality / sexual acttractions and is not ready / willing to reveal themselves, a liarsexual will actively deny it, in effect, bullshit their way thru life

liarsexual is not a offensive / degrading term but a actual truth about a person

for example, if I was to suck a cock than deny that I have sucked a cock, shown a interest in sucking a cock, very touched another mans cock etc, that would make me a liarsexual....I am actually lieing about my actions....and that has nothing to do with admitting my true sexuality as it may be a fetish, not a bisexual nature...but clearly, I would be lieing to people

the term liarsexual is not sexuality based... a straight man can be a liarsexual if he is interested in watching cartoon sex, but states that he has no interest in porn of any kind....

the term liarsexual refers to a sexual attraction or interest that is never admitted to and actively denied.

if I look back over my life at myself, yes I am a liarsexual, I have lied to people about some sexual interests of mine ( not illegal sex practices ) and the reasons have been far from viable
... I am open about my bisexuality but there are aspects of me sexually that I keep quiet and on a few occasions have actively denied them, to keep the peace.....not a honourable reason.... but my lies never hurt or protrayed anybodies trust in me as it was not to a partner...and actually protected me from a situation that could have turned bad......

I am proud to accept and acknowledge that I am a liarsexual, in doing so, I ended up becoming a person that gained a partner that I was 100% open and honest with before we met and she did the same as me and opened up and was honest with me.....

so lets has a liarsexual head count.... who here can honestly admire to being a liarsexual.... and remember, its not about looking bad or pointing the finger at people... but facing the fact that we are human, and for what ever reason, we have lied about aspects of us and our interests....
admitting that at times we have not been honest with people, but not in a way that could cost us our relationships, families or friends....
we have just lied openly to protect ourselves and our interests

think minor things like cookies on the computer from some sites, or seeing something in the news or in the news paper and saying how you could never imagine being turned up by what is written or shown.....

lets have a liarsexual pride thread, where you the liarsexual can be honest and admit to lieing without having to say what you lied about......

and yes we are honest people, open and honest, and just like the rest of society that has lied ( even white lies ) so we better not see judgemental posts here....

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Uhmm..I lied about that 2nd cookie the other day..does that count? lol
The only thing i had ever had to lie about sexually was the orgasms that my ex husband thought that he provided for all of the years we were married, and the fact that I was Bi. I Liked my head atop my shoulders, so I never dared tell him. All those years of having to keep the real me bottled up, never letting him know that women turned me on more then he did. He always thought it was odd that women might cuddle up to me or openly flirt with me, but he never said alot about it, only that women sure took to me. I had to laugh it off and say it was my "Matronly figure and cuddliness" that attracted them. Saved getting my head knocked off.......

So now that I am away from him, I am open and honest to anyone who I feel Needs to know my sexuality.
Ok, you now know my secret shame. I'm a Liarsexual...in recovery..LOL:rolleyes:
Cat

[Long Duck Dong]

hugs chero the hero....ahhh heroine.... lol

yeah thats the sort of thing I was refering to with the term liarsexual....
and yeah, it shows that there are times that we do not lie to hide our shame etc... but cos its the only option we have.... the alternative is much harsher if we tell the truth....

i'm glad that you are free and friendly and huggable now....

I would be so ashamed of myself if my partner was not able to climax... it means that her needs are not being met and that I am not listening to her or her desires and hints.... it would be a bad case of male fail..... mmmmm sounds like another subject to show the side of sexuality and sex that doesn't get addressed or admitted to enuf....

[innaminka]

I think everyone probably has that label attached somewhere.
To what extent does "lying" about sexuality go?
My children?????? Of course I was a "liarsexual" to them. (They know now)
My mother??? ditto! (Still oblivious)

Coming out is/was a montrous burden for most of us. For many, not coming out is just as strong a need as being open.

Good thread :bipride:

[12voltman59]

I look at not disclosing sexual orientation much like the way the military and federal government deal with classified security information-----the status is divulged to those with "a need to know!" Otherwise--they have no right to have access to the information.

[rissababynta]

Uhmm..I lied about that 2nd cookie the other day..does that count? lol
The only thing i had ever had to lie about sexually was the orgasms that my ex husband thought that he provided for all of the years we were married,

LOL at faked orgasms. Mens egos deflate real quick when they hear that stuff.

[**Peg**]

I look at not disclosing sexual orientation much like the way the military and federal government deal with classified security information-----the status is divulged to those with "a need to know!" Otherwise--they have no right to have access to the information.

I agree volty.

I don't need to lie about anything (not that I EVER did).

I was raised in a time when lying got you the strap in school, the back of your Fathers' hand at home, and Mom's towering disapproval and stern look (which was more devastating to me than either of the other two punishments).

[fredtyg]

As best I can remember, in all my 54 years I don't think I've ever lied about my sexuality or my sexual activities. I might of joined in with some good natured homo jokes when I was younger, but never anything intended as a serious attack on other's sexuality.

Thing is, though, I don't know that anybody ever asked me if I was queer or bi. In my late teens I had a girlfriend that told me she thought I was a "latent homosexual", but she didn't ask me about it and, when she said that, I didn't reply.

I also had a guy I used to work with tell me he was what he and his friends considered an "FHF". I just shrugged my shoulders. He then asked me if I knew FHF meant "Fair Haired Faggot". I couldn't tell if he was serious, or not. Again, I just shrugged my shoulders. Don't know if he was trying to start a fight, or what?

When serious anti- homo sentiment did arise, I never joined in. When I was in basic training in the Army, there was a guy in our company that was supposedly homo. Another guy was relentless in open, verbal attacks on him. I never joined in those and, seems to me, not many others did, either.

But I think we all joined in on the laughter when the big mouth homo hater came back to the barracks drunk one night and hopped in bed, trying to get it on with the homo guy he supposedly hated.

As I got older I got more and more open about admitting my sexuality but, as someone else mentioned, I try to keep it on a need to know basis. The rest of the time I just keep my mouth shut.

[eddy10]

LDD, I once heard that every educated person should coin two new words each year. "Liarsexual" should qualify as one of yours.

[Donkey_burger]

I have lied to myself in the past about my sexuality, so yeah. I'm a liarsexual.

DB :bipride:

[Long Duck Dong]

LDD, I once heard that every educated person should coin two new words each year. "Liarsexual" should qualify as one of yours.


lol... the trouble is that people would use it as a offensive and demeaning term.... as a term to describe somebody that commits a criminal offense or lies to cause harm and ill feeling to others...
I do not like liars that lie to manipulate, steal, commit fraud etc.....so the term liarsexual was never used in that context......

to me a liarsexual will deny aspects of themselves etc, in situations that require them to do it....as cat and 12volt showed.... one was a risk to their health, the other was a risk to a career....and denying something was beneficial to them at the time

a liarsexual could be a person that is not denying who they are but coming to grips with their sexuality and while they are in between sexualities, not saying anything about their struggle with who they are..... and they are not sure if they are bi, gay, les, trans, hetero, pan whatever....so its easier not to say anything until they are sure.....

[onewhocares]

I would be so ashamed of myself if my partner was not able to climax... it means that her needs are not being met and that I am not listening to her or her desires and hints.... it would be a bad case of male fail..... mmmmm sounds like another subject to show the side of sexuality and sex that doesn't get addressed or admitted to enuf....


LDD,

I think this comment could be the start of a whole new thread. How many men ( or to be unbiased...women) can say that they have been concerned and attentive to the needs of their partners. You come up with some of the best thread topics.

Belle

[wm1809]

LOL at faked orgasms. Mens egos deflate real quick when they hear that stuff.

No not so much I don't care you can't have a star production everytime !

[sebax]

mens ego do not deflate real quick ahahahah that is a myth...

if the other person fakes it, well too bad on that person because i would never know if he/she is actually having a great time, while I'm having a blast..
and in the end who had a blast who climaxed, who enjoyed themselves..i did, I did, I did.. so next

[swmnkdinthervr]

I'm in construction and ride a Harley...both scenarios put me in situations that my sexual interests are better left unmentioned. Family (what I have left) is another issue, my died in the wool Christian mother would faint dead away if she suspected my bisexuality!

Now my wife, and kids all know of my orientation and are accepting even supportive...my wife even joins me in play!

So...I think the situation/scenario to exists on a day to day basis to some degree that dictates your ability to be completely truthful...do I lie, not if I don't have to....am I a liarsexual, yes I suppose so!

[bistraightpat]

A little bit. My girlfriend and two other people know but my family won't accept it nor would my friends. Which sucks because I have some hot guy friends.