Would you be honest about your preference if you went to a place that has gay

[miamiuu]

and straight nights? Would you be fine revealing your true preference to the people that work there? Would you all be concerned if say you went on a straight night there that the people there would get in your business?

[jem_is_bi]

and straight nights? Would you be fine revealing your true preference to the people that work there? Would you all be concerned if say you went on a straight night there that the people there would get in your business?

I care very much about the opinion of my family and partner. Otherwise, so long as I am a nice and honorable person with others, why should I care about what people that work or go to a bar think about me? If the atmosphere of a place was too negative toward me, I would go elsewhere.

[FalconAngel]

Sure. Anyone working in a place that has nights specific to particular orientations would have employees that are accepting to those orientations.

[eddy10]

Str8 nite, not str8, can't go.
Gay nite, not gay, can't go.
Bi nite, I'll be there.

[Bi_Druid]

the orientaton of the night would be of little concern for me. I'd be honest as to who I am either way. It's not like I'd be going round with a banner and neon lights and rubbing t in every ones faces like; if someone asks, i tell them, otherwise they obviously don't give a tinkers.
I'd go to a place becouse of the atmos, and the prices, and stuff. Straight/gay whatever nights are as good/bad/indiferent as straight/gay/whatever establishments really

[GreenEyedLady(GEL)]

Being with Jill has been very liberating. She is very affectionate, and it doesn't matter where we are, people will notice the obvious, we are a couple. I was nervous about it at first, but as I began to fall in love with this woman I didn't care, granted were not all over one another like were saying look at us were queers, but its obvious. I'm comfortable, and I think it has to do with the situation your in.

[biguy54]

i would be open. why not? i like both genders so as long as i am honest with my partner(s). seems all good.

[miamiuu]

Well im a single guy, but who wants to take the chance that one of these people that works there opens there mouth if they see you with a girl there after seeing you with a guy at the same place a previous night. That is where i am coming from.

[vittoria]

the orientaton of the night would be of little concern for me. I'd be honest as to who I am either way. It's not like I'd be going round with a banner and neon lights and rubbing t in every ones faces like; if someone asks, i tell them, otherwise they obviously don't give a tinkers.
I'd go to a place becouse of the atmos, and the prices, and stuff. Straight/gay whatever nights are as good/bad/indiferent as straight/gay/whatever establishments really

Ahhh... a tinker's damn...

:tong: lol! I agree

[csrakate]

What I don't understand is why you would even bother attending such an event if you're so worried about what others would say. I mean, if you can't be comfortable with who you are yourself, why bother doing so in the first place?

[jem_is_bi]

Well im a single guy, but who wants to take the chance that one of these people that works there opens there mouth if they see you with a girl there after seeing you with a guy at the same place a previous night. That is where i am coming from.

If she can't handle it, what have you lost?
If she can handle it. ;)

[frikidiki]

In a straight club, I would definitely be forthcoming about it IF asked or IF I thought it would matter to someone else. In a gay club, I'm more forthcoming about it and don't care. On some level a gay crowd is more open to a bi man being in the mix, whereas a straight club isn't. Even straight night at the Bonham Exchange can be a little risky, or at least it seemed that way a few years ago. Nobody at the bars my family goes to really knows about me cuz to me these aren't the right crowds to be open with, and I probably wouldn't even think of taking them home, anyway, so they have no need to know.

As for the possibility of being seen by coworkers, church fellows, etc., all I can say is, that's the brakes! A coworker who outs you at your job when you didn't want to be outed creates a hostile work environment, and employers do not want to deal with that for too long. Anyone who says they saw you there risks being seen as the pot calling the kettle black--why are they there, too? If they're smart, they'll just say hi-you-too-hey-who-knew, or whatever, and either keep their mouth shut or invite you along next time they go. If you're really worried about the consequences of being outed, go to places that aren't near where you work or live, and consider going with a small group of people instead of by yourself.

Luckily, younger people are used to the idea that some people don't turn out het like most people at least seem to. Being non-het is not quite the scandal it used to be, although of course there are still people out there who hate us for it and may even try to hurt us. The bigger the city, the more likely the odds that you'll be OK.