Bubber
May 6, 2007, 2:45 PM
I'm new here and I love the look and feel of this community. This is long and I apologize but it is the reason I sought this site in the first place so here goes:
A few months back my wife admitted that she believed she had bisexual tendencies. We went through all of the emotions involved with that admission and came out on the other side with an understanding that, given the opportunity, we would explore this in her. In the meantime, we have enjoyed pointing out sexy women to each other, watching the occasional video with lesbian themes and thoroughly enjoying the trip.
Last weekend, we were at an event with some people and one of them was her best friend. She lit up like I'd never seen when she saw my wife that day and so did my wife so I resolved myself to see if I could get them together. It turned out that it required little effort on my part. We all (the three of us) went to our house, drank too much, and ended up in a ball on the floor and then the bedroom. We were all fondling each other and exploring each other. I entered both my wife and her friend and everybody loved everything. In all, it was a perfect evening. My wife is in love with her friend and she loves her back and I love the pair of them.
This woman has children and a husband who is absent from her life emotionally. She is going to leave him soon and this was known beforehand by all of us. She also has a lover in another state. He is an old friend who she hooked up with on vacation home a few months ago and apparently they fell in love and have been having a deep love affair long distance for almost a year now. This was not known by all present that night last week. My wife knew this but I did not. I was aware of his existence and that they had hooked up when she had last gone back to visit her hometown, but I was not aware that they had since developed a deep relationship. I had always assumed she had had a fling. Would this have changed anything, if I'd known the full extent of their affair? Perhaps not but I would like to think it would have.
My wife and her friend, already loved each other as best friends do but that evening they fell IN love with each other very quickly and it became plainly obvious. I relished it and it has brought me and my wife closer then ever before. I love her more now then ever and for this alone I am grateful. The opportunity to see my wife explore a new love with a beautiful woman adds to it and if anything, makes me love her more.
Her friends boyfriend however is not so keen on recent developments. He likes the idea of her and my wife together, but wants me nowhere near the two of them when they are together like that. And who could blame him? He feels cheated and betrayed and I understand completely. If I was him I would be very upset as well. I entered his girlfriend that night! She was honest with him about that evening and what happened and I suppose this speaks to her love for him.
I cannot, after having the two of them that night, be comfortable with my wife having a relationship with this woman that did not somehow include me. If I come downstairs after putting the children to bed and find them making out on the couch, I cannot turn around and wait it out upstairs alone. This is not reasonable to me. I want them to be together and love each other but I need to be included there somewhere. I can certainly restrain myself from having sex with my wifes girlfriend or even keeping my hands off her entirely if that is what it takes for everyone to be comfortable with the situation but in this my wife and I are a package deal. My wife has no problem with this and her girlfriend has said that she understands this as well.
Last night she came over again and we all ended up cuddling on the couch, I very specifically did not touch her that evening and told my wife to make her happy. They fondled each other and kissed and felt and loved each other but everybody remained dressed and while I was stroking my wife the entire time, her leg, her back, everywhere, I did not touch her girlfriend. We never discussed what should be allowed and what is considered appropriate for her girlfriend and her boyfriends comfort level and I know that was a mistake so I remained away from my wifes lover and when it was over, I felt like a third wheel. A voyeur who was interfering and not participating and this makes me sad and angry.
I find myself, this morning, wondering if, after the first encounter we all had, I didn't fall in love a little bit with her girlfriend as an individual and not only as a pairing with my wife. This would explain a sense of loss I have developed since I learned of her boyfriend and his desire for me to leave her alone. Why would that knowledge upset me if I didn't care for her. (I find myself wishing he would go away so my wife and I could continue and grow a loving relationship with this woman. That is an aspect of this that I need to work out my feelings on for sure). I have made my desire to see this relationship between my wife and her girlfriend work known to both of them. I have said to them that I believe that we can find a common ground that fits everybody's needs and still fit in with their individual comfort levels. But I suppose we made an error in having another encounter last night before continuing that particular discussion.
Although my wife and I have discussed little else all week, it still remains a confusing situation that will have to be worked out in the long run. Seeing them together is beautiful and turns me on and I honestly want it to continue. And while I have never felt closer or more in love with my wife then I do now, I also feel like I am losing something and I remain confused...
CRAZY EH?? Thanks for listening guys and any comments or questions are welcomed. Perhaps I will write more as my thoughts straighten out a bit. I have no one to talk about this with other than my wife and I think, perhaps, I need that.
A few months back my wife admitted that she believed she had bisexual tendencies. We went through all of the emotions involved with that admission and came out on the other side with an understanding that, given the opportunity, we would explore this in her. In the meantime, we have enjoyed pointing out sexy women to each other, watching the occasional video with lesbian themes and thoroughly enjoying the trip.
Last weekend, we were at an event with some people and one of them was her best friend. She lit up like I'd never seen when she saw my wife that day and so did my wife so I resolved myself to see if I could get them together. It turned out that it required little effort on my part. We all (the three of us) went to our house, drank too much, and ended up in a ball on the floor and then the bedroom. We were all fondling each other and exploring each other. I entered both my wife and her friend and everybody loved everything. In all, it was a perfect evening. My wife is in love with her friend and she loves her back and I love the pair of them.
This woman has children and a husband who is absent from her life emotionally. She is going to leave him soon and this was known beforehand by all of us. She also has a lover in another state. He is an old friend who she hooked up with on vacation home a few months ago and apparently they fell in love and have been having a deep love affair long distance for almost a year now. This was not known by all present that night last week. My wife knew this but I did not. I was aware of his existence and that they had hooked up when she had last gone back to visit her hometown, but I was not aware that they had since developed a deep relationship. I had always assumed she had had a fling. Would this have changed anything, if I'd known the full extent of their affair? Perhaps not but I would like to think it would have.
My wife and her friend, already loved each other as best friends do but that evening they fell IN love with each other very quickly and it became plainly obvious. I relished it and it has brought me and my wife closer then ever before. I love her more now then ever and for this alone I am grateful. The opportunity to see my wife explore a new love with a beautiful woman adds to it and if anything, makes me love her more.
Her friends boyfriend however is not so keen on recent developments. He likes the idea of her and my wife together, but wants me nowhere near the two of them when they are together like that. And who could blame him? He feels cheated and betrayed and I understand completely. If I was him I would be very upset as well. I entered his girlfriend that night! She was honest with him about that evening and what happened and I suppose this speaks to her love for him.
I cannot, after having the two of them that night, be comfortable with my wife having a relationship with this woman that did not somehow include me. If I come downstairs after putting the children to bed and find them making out on the couch, I cannot turn around and wait it out upstairs alone. This is not reasonable to me. I want them to be together and love each other but I need to be included there somewhere. I can certainly restrain myself from having sex with my wifes girlfriend or even keeping my hands off her entirely if that is what it takes for everyone to be comfortable with the situation but in this my wife and I are a package deal. My wife has no problem with this and her girlfriend has said that she understands this as well.
Last night she came over again and we all ended up cuddling on the couch, I very specifically did not touch her that evening and told my wife to make her happy. They fondled each other and kissed and felt and loved each other but everybody remained dressed and while I was stroking my wife the entire time, her leg, her back, everywhere, I did not touch her girlfriend. We never discussed what should be allowed and what is considered appropriate for her girlfriend and her boyfriends comfort level and I know that was a mistake so I remained away from my wifes lover and when it was over, I felt like a third wheel. A voyeur who was interfering and not participating and this makes me sad and angry.
I find myself, this morning, wondering if, after the first encounter we all had, I didn't fall in love a little bit with her girlfriend as an individual and not only as a pairing with my wife. This would explain a sense of loss I have developed since I learned of her boyfriend and his desire for me to leave her alone. Why would that knowledge upset me if I didn't care for her. (I find myself wishing he would go away so my wife and I could continue and grow a loving relationship with this woman. That is an aspect of this that I need to work out my feelings on for sure). I have made my desire to see this relationship between my wife and her girlfriend work known to both of them. I have said to them that I believe that we can find a common ground that fits everybody's needs and still fit in with their individual comfort levels. But I suppose we made an error in having another encounter last night before continuing that particular discussion.
Although my wife and I have discussed little else all week, it still remains a confusing situation that will have to be worked out in the long run. Seeing them together is beautiful and turns me on and I honestly want it to continue. And while I have never felt closer or more in love with my wife then I do now, I also feel like I am losing something and I remain confused...
CRAZY EH?? Thanks for listening guys and any comments or questions are welcomed. Perhaps I will write more as my thoughts straighten out a bit. I have no one to talk about this with other than my wife and I think, perhaps, I need that.