When did you know you bi. I did ( very young )

[oldnutter]

13 Year Old. Male.

[MikeW]

I knew I wasn't straight or gay... or should I say I knew I was "different" when I was about 9 or 10, maybe a bit earlier. As for when I figured it out and realised I was bi, that was about a year ago. So that would've put me at 42.

[Reprob8]

All of the clues were there but I didn't really allow myself to address it untill a couple months ago. I remember once when I was about 14 swimming at the lake one of my mom's friends brought her son and a friend of his, they were 17 or 18 and after swimming the wanted to see who was biggest, they got themselves hard and compared notes. I was embarassed and didn't know what to do so I just walked off but I felt a little tingle watching that but didn't think too much on it, my girlfreind was back at the camp so I had other things on my mind. I have no idea what they did after I left, I kind of wondered about that.

That was the girfriend my mom loved to hate, she asked me once if I knew that the GF was a *lut I think my response was "do you really think so?" as I headed out the door to go to her house.

[Lyon1369]

When did I know? probebly around 11-12.
When did I admit it to myself, probebly not till I was about 18.
:three:

[DiamondDog]

I first knew when I was 12, possibly younger.

[zizzy]

I knew when I was bi about 10 or 9. It was confusing for me because all I knew was gay and straight. I still remember saying to myself "what's wrong with both" when I was 10 or 9.

[smokey]

I worked it out in my very early 20's. My parents (mother especially) were very controlling when I was at home and then I was in the military, but once I was on my own it went really quickly. In the military my sexual experince was with women only, though I was curious, so one night I let myself be picked up at an adult theater and that was that, I knew I liked both.

[shameless agitator]

I worked it out in my very early 20's. My parents (mother especially) were very controlling when I was at home and then I was in the military, but once I was on my own it went really quickly. In the military my sexual experince was with women only, though I was curious, so one night I let myself be picked up at an adult theater and that was that, I knew I liked both.I think I've known since I was about 8 but I kept thinking in the old gay/straight binary. When did I finally admit it to myself? A couple months ago so age 32.

[mistymockingbird]

I always knew on some level that I was attracted to both but just assumed that it was normal. Even after having sexual experiences with both genders, I never labled myself as bi until about a year ago. Was talking with a friend about fantasies and he asked me point blank if I was bi. Thought about it for a second and said, "well, yes, I guess so, I just never thought of it that way. I just like what I like."

[TinTin]

Only when I was 17 after having sexual experiences with both sexes.
Loved men and women ever since.

[the sacred night]

I am like Reprob8, all the evidence pointed to it, but I didn't let myself even consider the possibility. It's amazing how stupid you can make yourself if you try :wacko: I did hear of bisexuals around age 10, because a friend told me her brother was bi and I asked what that meant. I actually thought the idea was gross at the time, and in my family bisexuals have always been more stigmatized than homosexuals, although I don't know if society in general is that way. Anywho... I had heard of it, but didn't let myself consider the possibility of me being bi until I was 17, and I thought... "you know, it's unlikely, but if I'm ever attracted to a girl in the future, I guess I'd be open to that..." and it didn't take long for it to happen... and then only in retrospect I saw that I'd been attracted to girls all my life, but had just never put the label "attracted" or "crush" or anything that sounded at all lesbianish on it, becuse I was a homophobe myself for many years and refused to entertain the thought even when it presented itself.

[Werewolf]

I guess I can trace my bisexuality back to middle school at least, though probably further. I always exclusively had crushes on girls back then, there was Katie, Sharlin, Leonela, Monica, and Laura. Around middle school, I also began to feel a sexual attraction towards men, but just men, not boys. While I crushed and pursued the girls, I couldn't help but feel attracted to the men around me. I grew up with my mother, sister, and grandmother, so I had no real male figures in my life and maybe that's why I was attracted to people like my mom's boyfriends, my landlord, the janitor or security guard at our complex, and my male teachers; of course, nothing ever happened with them, it was all just fantasy.

Initially, I denied this in myself and refused it because I thought I was gay. I didn't really know back then that there was such a thing as bisexuality. When we got a computer, I entered the world of internet porn, and soon I was exploring both my straight and gay sides equally. In High School, I had a few girlfriends and several crushes, and was actively straight. I never messed around with any guys, but I was definately infatuated with a few. I had my first crushes on guys while in high school, including one of my best friends, but I never pursued any of it... in my mind, bi was just the road to gay. For a while, I thought I was probably gay, and in denial, but I couldn't deny my obvious attraction for women either, just like I couldn't deny my attraction for men. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend summer between 11th and 12th grade, and soon I became very confused about where I was heading. I liked girls more than boys, but I couldn't deny my attraction for men. Despite this, I kept it hidden and only secretly pleasured myself with gay pornography or pushed back my feelings for guys without ever actively seeking any relationships; it was mostly out of my own hidden homophobia.

In early 2004, while taking the local commuter rail line to work, I met a guy that I finally connected with and had feelings for in the same way that I had had feelings for my girlfriends in the past. Needless to say, I fell for him like I had never fallen for anyone, and it was because of this that I finally confirmed to myself that I was attracted to both men, like him, and to women, like my ex girlfriends. I'm not sure if he felt the same way for me, but he sure did act it, and this is probably what excited me most about it. He himself was "straight", yet the way we would flirt, connect, and even casually touch each other just sparked with electricity and you'd swear he was into the entire experience as much as I was. I can't really confirm if he was gay, bi, straight, or what... we never talked about that, but I know there had to have been something there.

After a few months, I lost contact with him and soon I looked into bisexuality and what it all meant. After admitting it to myself shortly thereafter, I've mostly kept it secret... and I guess that I'm soon to be coming out with it, because I'm comfortable enough with it now. Still, I think I'm more inclined towards the straight side. I will mostly seek women for a relationship, but if another chance like the one I had 2 years ago came up, I'd take it as seriously as if it were with a woman, and that's what makes me bi.

One last thing to add... How do you deal with coming out and saying "I'm bi" to people. Most people, I feel, would just think "yeah, you're just gay and in denial" or "you're straight and confused over some little crush (seeing my past history with women)", but I don't want that, I want to be able to explain it in a way where people wouldn't make those assumptions. Is there any way I can get the message across without being labelled as such. Any advice?

[Sparks]

At a very early age, 10 or so, I knew that I was least bisexual. I liked girls, but knew that I liked boys as well.

[wolfgang33]

The clues were all there, and I guesse in some part of the back of my mind, I had known since about 5th grade, It would be on and off for me, I would fantasize about girls and all of a sudden there would be guys in my fantasies: :eek: how did you get there? I assumed it was just a phase and tried my hardest to never think about guys. I met my best friend in Sept/Oct of 7th grade, and as we got to know each other better, we started talking about everything-- mainly sex, as we were horny 13-14 yr. olds at the time. We both kept on throwing hints at each other, and we both kept on denying each other and ourselves. We would ask each other when we were alone... if "friend X" was told you he was gay, would you let him give you a hand job...? and there was a period when we even did mutual masturbation and oral sex with each other, which we decided was a normal thing to do. We would sit there afterwards, and in a state of distress knowing that it was pleasurable to both give and recieve, assure ourselves... I guess everyone's a little bit bi... I guess. In retrospect it was really comical. After that period around spring break of that year, we both kind of shyed away from it for a while. Then, my friend started telling me about this penpal from france he had. I asked if he would give me his e-mail adress so I could meet him, but he was very reluctant to give it to me. I finally got the e-mail address, and my friend told me nervously that the french guy was gay, and he said he was gay also 'as a joke'...i left for vacation suspicious, and on this vacation i became pretty sure I was bi. when i came back, i saw a text message on my friends phone saying i luv u, charles. it shocked and affirmed my suspicions the next day i confronted him about it, and ended up admitting my bisexuality to him as well. we both ended up being bi, and I am so lucky that I had a friend there for me on the path to self exceptance (I would have told him even if he wasnt bi, too, but it made it so much easier for me.) :flag4:

[matterinhand]

As I said in another post, I was about 12, but it was just watching and being watched with no actual contact until my 20's

[holle1199]

I was about 12 when I had the first experience but never admitted to being Bi until I was about 40

Jim

[mrplayfuluk]

I had same sex experiences in my early teens with my best friend and we compared cocks, got them hard and were fascinated by the fact he was cut and I wasn't but we never came together. Then at my all boys school there was a homosexual undercurrent where touching and experimenting was always available. I did it on the bus every week groping with a friend, our hands hidden under school bags. Even in cubicles after swimming lessons and it was there one day that I saw the most perfect erect penis on this cute guy. He was uncut, with his foreskin rolled back and his cockhead was literally throbbing from his fast heartbeat. I was mesmerised just looking at it and I was probably mirroring him with my own expectant penis, we never touched but I believe that that was the moment I understood I was into men and their bits as a sexual thrill. At college I hung out with art students who were all bi curious and talked about gay sex as something to try and we used to go to gay clubs for the thrill/ risk although we convinced ourselves it was just for the music! during all this time I continued to have good straight relationships and there were no gay sex adventures. While I was always fascinated by gay erotica I never identified myself as gay or even bi until the internet opened my mind to the possibilities. Now turning 50 I am able to say I am bisexual rather than just bi curious, so much time to catch up!

[Fire Lotus]

I was attracted to other females in my earliy teens. But at the time I didn't know to identify myself as bi (Even though, I was seeing guys). I didn't act on my attractions till my late 20's. Once I did, I enjoyed women so much, I thought I was a lesbian. This went on for several years. Then I met my husband and I was very drawn to him. So, only in the last few years I've identified myself as bi.

[Goodgirl87]

I thought about it a lot from the onset of puberty, probably like 13, but I just thought it was hormones or something. I didn't admit it to myself until maybe a year ago, and not to anyone else until about a week ago. :three:

[bunnybutt]

I thought I was a lesbian as a kid (I told my mom I was a lesbian when I was 6, lol). At puberty due to shyness and wanting to fit in I hid behind straight. In high school I had a lot of queer friends but they all thought I was straight. I remember one of my lesbian friends telling me how bi girls are lame and that clammed me up. I was best friends with this girl (identified as straight) and we would make out & experiment... "Just for fun" ;) I started dating a guy at 16 (still with him) and I kind of felt like, nobody's asking so there's no reason to tell anyone. I told him about a year and a half ago (I'm 22 now) and it was great. Now I just wish I knew more bi people.

[Kuragxo]

I think I always was attracted to both sexes and never "knew" it was a "problem" until, I guess, a Sunday School teacher "straightened" us out. I remember having crushes on both girls and boys at a very early age and fantasizing (as much as any 6 or 7 year old can) about physical contact with both.

[Biboz49]

Looking back I was always interested in same sex activities. My first recollection of being sexually aroused by another guy was around age 9, and then at various times throughout my life. I was definitely attracted to women and just interpreted those same sex thoughts as curiousity. It wasn't until recently, a few years ago, that it dawned on me that I was sexually aroused by men as well. Shortly afterwards I had the opportunity to act on it and so very glad I did. :)

[NJpantyboy69]

I had my first homosexual experiance when I was 13 or 14, when the boys down the street and I took turns sucking each other off. I fantasized about this for years, and finally did anal while I was in the military. After I came home, it was a series of women, and I loved it all. Finally I had a neighbor who loved to give me BJs, and I knew then that I was really confused. I liked women, but really enjoyed my time with men also, Later, whenever I was in my early 40s I met a guy on the internet and had MtoM fun again. Wow! Then I took anal - wow, now I know how a woman feels to get screwed.

It was then I started using the internet to find that what I really wanted was being bi, and there are more of you like me out there. Now I am into CD, and love wearing panties, etc., and look to score whenever possible with either sex.

I am still in the chase, getting action whenever, whereever, and with whom ever I can. Bi and loving it.

:bipride: :male: