View Full Version : Anyone else resort to gay sex becuase women ignore and reject you?
LennyC
Oct 7, 2015, 3:21 PM
I often find myself having sex with men and transsexuals after suffering a heartbreak or constantly getting treated bad by women, I am the only one that does this?
silvio
Oct 7, 2015, 5:21 PM
I often find myself having sex with men and transsexuals after suffering a heartbreak or constantly getting treated bad by women, I am the only one that does this?
Most likely you are not the only one, I also suspect that the opposite happen often too (woman having sex with women because bad experiences with guys), I think a lot of that has to do with society, role playing, education, unrealistic expectations, culture, etc, etc.. In other word, is a fact of life, welcome to the human race
LennyC
Oct 7, 2015, 6:11 PM
Yeah, it is so much easier with guys.
cornholejoe
Oct 7, 2015, 6:47 PM
i think a lot of guys do men just for the sex
sysper
Oct 7, 2015, 7:39 PM
i have had bad luck with women. i've gotta admit, i think part of what drives me to be bicurious is being desparate to be with somebody get rid of some of my sexual frustration.
pole_smoker
Oct 7, 2015, 8:48 PM
i think a lot of guys do men just for the sex
:rolleyes: More biphobia/homophobia from one of our resident trolls here. :rolleyes: Just because you do men 'just for the sex' since you get ignored and rejected by women it does not mean that the majority of bisexual men do this or are this way when it comes to our attractions to men.
To answer your question, no neither myself or my husband "resorted to sex with men" because before we met each other and were single and dating women and men we did not get rejected or ignored by women.
naztypanty
Oct 8, 2015, 6:01 PM
It seems to be so much easier getting casual sex from men than women.
My move into bi/gay sex began when I lived for six years in a warehouse when I started my business. (Now I have 40 employees, 10 trucks, a billion headaches, but I made it.)
I lived on a couch and showered by heating two gallons of water in the microwave oven and standing in a plastic tub.
The horniest person I know, just jerking off wasn't enough.
There was an ABS nearby. I'd go in back and watch porn and jerk off. Afraid of STD's I rarely made contact. However, the ready availability of men for sex made me imagine the possibilities.
One of my clients was a gay dude. At that time I was smoking pot. I'd go over to his place to get pot. He'd have gay porn around and on the TV. I started to masturbate with him. Slowly, I started to experiment. First just hand jobs, then he'd give me blow jobs. I'd let him play with my cock and ass with toys: lubes, dildos, butt plugs, ball stretchers, etc. I found that i'd get in the mood better if I wore lingerie. He'd have a gay friend over and I'd masturbate and play with my toys while being watched.
I'm concerned about STD's and so my contacts with men are very careful.
LennyC
Oct 8, 2015, 11:12 PM
I want to be with a woman romantically but I only want to have sex with men.
cornholejoe
Oct 9, 2015, 8:15 PM
:rolleyes: More biphobia/homophobia from one of our resident trolls here. :rolleyes: Just because you do men 'just for the sex' since you get ignored and rejected by women it does not mean that the majority of bisexual men do this or are this way when it comes to our attractions to men.
To answer your question, no neither myself or my husband "resorted to sex with men" because before we met each other and were single and dating women and men we did not get rejected or ignored by women. does anyone on here believe this
ErosUrge
Oct 9, 2015, 11:51 PM
does anyone on here believe this
he thinks he speaks for everyone...there are a lot of men who do have sex with men just for the sex...and I realize you weren't speaking for everyone, but he apparently thinks that he does....I have had sex after a breakup with a serious relationship with a woman...for me, it doesn't work. I find it better to grieve and heal first from the relationship not working. Now again, I don't speak for everyone, that's for sure....the best sex for me is when I am either involved in a serious relationship with someone or am single and a free spirit to play with whoever I want and whenever I want.....to answer the question more directly, No, I do NOT resort to sex with men because women ignore and reject me....I resort to sex with men because I love sex with men...period.
pole_smoker
Oct 10, 2015, 1:33 AM
does anyone on here believe this
Nobody here believes any of the bullshit you post and troll about, that's for sure. ;) :rolleyes:
Franz007
Oct 10, 2015, 11:56 AM
Yes. I discovered gaysex because of my frsutration with women. But years after that it sayed a fantasy and as soon as i was single again, i was happy to have sex with men again. But after a while i miss the emotional aspect with a person (that i can't have with a man).
That means: it began with a frutration but i learned to like it after having discovered it, when i dont want to invest my time in searching for a woman. I them go to a gay bathhouse or club then.
cornholejoe
Oct 10, 2015, 10:06 PM
Nobody here believes any of the bullshit you post and troll about, that's for sure. ;) :rolleyes:
you got that wrong you the only person thats talks bullshit trying to be something your not
jem_is_bi
Oct 11, 2015, 12:56 AM
you got that wrong you the only person thats talks bullshit trying to be something your not
I disagree. I think he is very good at being himself.
whispering
Oct 11, 2015, 2:06 AM
It's a very interesting question. Personally, I love women, and at the same time sucking a man's cock is extremely erotic. I've sucked a lot of men who discovered the joys of having their cock sucked by a man after a divorce or other disruption of their heterosexual sex life. They commonly say, "sex is so much easier with guys", but my experience is that for many men, once they have crossed the line, they crave the male experience no matter what their sex life with women is. And some men have their first encounter with another guy out of "frustration", but then find increasing satisfaction with other guys to the point they identify as gay. I have to say, I love that it's so easy to find men to suck, but I don't do from convenience--I do it from desire and craving, and many of the men I suck have similar cravings.
Sundazzled
Oct 11, 2015, 3:07 AM
It's not because women reject / disrespect me, but at 60 years old, it's hard to find a woman who is interested in me sexually anymore.
whispering
Oct 11, 2015, 6:41 PM
...and to be honest, knowing that I'm getting good sex with men IS a buffer to any feelings of disinterest from women.
Novembercharlie
Sep 2, 2020, 8:41 PM
When I'm hung up on a woman sex with a man is sort of a way of getting sex without the same kind of emotional feelings.
csreef
Sep 2, 2020, 9:18 PM
In 2003 when I made the decision to explore my sexuality, I couldn't find a woman to go out with, much less get sex with, so I said to hell with it let me find out what sex with a man is like. This too, was easier said than done.
Jazminedress
Sep 2, 2020, 11:02 PM
i think a lot of guys do men just for the sex
Hmmmm, interesting. I would respectfully suggest in this day and age of instant gratification and (what appears to me) Stunted emotional growth in people, that many men also have sex with women just for the sex, and women with men just for the sex. Its a quick instant gratification and can make people feel good about themselves like they won when they get someone to have sex with them
There is also people who have strong emotional attachments in all the above.The reality is, what you are saying is true in any bar, any town,any Saturday night for any orientation or gender
The only maybe flaw I can see, and honestly, I don't know the answer. To have sex, being male, you kinda in general, gotta get a boner........so you have to have some desire or attraction dont you ?
I have had wet holes offered to me that I could not have sex with because I had zero attraction to them, so, don't you think it is difficult for a completely straight guy to get it up for another guy ?
KDaddy23
Sep 3, 2020, 1:11 AM
Is it difficult for a seriously straight guy to get it up for another guy? It is... and not really. The need for sex can override a lot of stuff and even I’ve seen firsthand guys who’ve said they wouldn’t have sex with a dude pop a boner. I think the misconception at work here is that guys aren’t supposed to have sex with other guys and just because. Attraction is mandated and even some degree of emotional attachment is used to justify the sex... then add on the other misconception that bi guys are gay guys who are well known for being very much into men. I’ve had guys tell me to my face that they don’t like me “like that” - but we can blow each other silly or even more bluntly, “I just do it for the sex.”
Nothing out of place here unless one has a different point of view about having sex and that there must be some other reason other than being horny. To myself, it’s well known that when some guys can’t get any pussy - and no matter why they can’t - getting some dick is not only in order but makes sense... because if it’s nothing else, it’s still sex. I’ve sucked a lot of “straight dick” belonging to guys who couldn’t get any pussy and a lot of them have blown me in return, too; some have fucked me while making it clear that this is just about the sex and nothing more... and even if I had my dick in their ass.
The truth, whether it’s accepted or not, is that guys will have sex with other guys and for any reason that makes sense to them. Sex with guys just for the sake of sex? Old news - very old news. If you’re not down with that, then you’re well within your rights not to be down with it... but you gotta know that guys do it just for the sex and if it’s good to them, they just might do it again.
Long Duck Dong
Sep 3, 2020, 2:07 AM
Lol KDaddy.... I love your response cos its so fucking true..... and I have seen people argue against your thinking cos of their own personal feelings and emotions will not allow them to accept anything outside of what they believe..........
Its a common stance of if somebody does not believe it, they will dismiss it or add their own spin on it so they can accept it, even down to arguing sexuality cos to them the idea that its just sex, can not possibly apply to them as well.....
Grant_Norman
Sep 3, 2020, 2:12 AM
My wife shut down about 8 years ago....completely...nothing...I certainly didn't want another woman to emotionally complicate things, so decided to fully pursue men. Sex with men is sex for me. No add-on emotional crap....swallow the load and we both enjoy it...why not? Glad I found bi sex, but just not enough every day, or lately, every month or so...really hit dry spot...used to have up to 5 encounters a week...no more.
rukiddingme
Sep 3, 2020, 6:19 AM
Not sure for me if my desire for gay sex was driven by anything a girl had caused. I had initial attraction at an early age from playing with a male friend while we were just coming of age. Then many relationships with women I would occasionally have some thoughts. Mostly once our sex became more adventurous with the introduction of toy play. After the relationship ended and before I got into a new relationship with a girl, I would browse bisexual sites and watch bisexual porn and into the relationship I occasionally watched Bi porn. But after being single my attraction became increasingly toward gay sex, even as I have occasional dates with women
KDaddy23
Sep 3, 2020, 8:04 AM
@Long Duck Dong it's always been a legit reason for guys to take a trip on the other side. Unlucky with women, getting dumped by them, got a woman who's stingy with it. Some guys just move on to another woman... and some guys reason that if they can't get laid with a woman, getting laid with a guy just might work. I know I wouldn't ever give such a guy the stink eye because, as it's been said time and time again, it's better than no sex at all and/or only having masturbation as a way to keep the blue balls away. If it makes their mind rest easy to still think of themselves as straight, well, okay - it's what they think. It's not a big deal and guys who have this reason for checking out dick aren't doing anything wrong... other than fooling themselves about really being straight.
With or without attraction or emotional connection, it's still sex. If there's something about this, it's that I don't quite know why a lot of guys just seem to figure out that having sex with a guy is the thing they have to do - and I've been trying to figure it out ever since the first time I heard about guys going for dick when they can't get any pussy.
ready2
Sep 3, 2020, 8:07 PM
I turned to gay sex for that reason. I couldn't just find myself a steady girl so I began thinking of other guys. I wondered how it felt to suck a man off and to drink his sperm and I soon found out and loved it. Although I later married, my gay experiences never left me and I still want to do it again. I want to give total service; from hugging, kissing, fondling and sucking. With the right person, I would even go for being fucked.
Sigstache
Sep 6, 2020, 6:54 AM
Never had a problem attracting the ladies. Its just that when you're married, trying to have a girlfriend or some side action never really works out. It usually becomes a liability. Im fully convinced women are wire different and cant seperate or compartmentalize their instincts from being a FWBs.
Anyhoo.... my first sexual experience was at a young age and with another guy. Never really explored that again till later in life and after being married for a while. I love oral sex but I never get as good as I give. So finding another married bicurious guy who loves get/giving head would fill the void.
Had a friend when I was younger who had a Bi buddy between girlfriends. Funny I was never interested in it then, probably because of all the tail I was chasing. Weird how its different now.
julyguybill
Sep 6, 2020, 2:00 PM
Had a wife who was argumentative every day did n o t want sex with her met a guy gave me oral sex and to be honest I loved it after months I began to suck guys too. Now years later I love to suck guys jyst love it want it often too
Tag200
Sep 6, 2020, 3:34 PM
That’s what I hope for me; married and sexless .. had girlfriend but heart break so hoping I can just enjoy sexy with men
Tag200
Sep 6, 2020, 3:35 PM
Yeah my interest in men goes up when no girls are available .... my x girlfriend was a liability and worse so maybe sucking some cock will be good sex and less hassle
stonebow
Sep 7, 2020, 11:42 AM
Yeah, it is so much easier with guys.
That's it in a nutshell!..no wooing, no risk....just find a horny guy and do it!
KDaddy23
Sep 7, 2020, 5:07 PM
True enough: Guys are easier than women are comparatively speaking. You just gotta be able to convince a guy that, if nothing else, no one else is gonna find out about it. Sometimes, yeah - you gotta convince him he's not gonna instantly turn into a gay guy and I'm not joking about that one. There are a whole lot of guys who'd be willing to have sex with you; no drama, no conditions, no promises to be made or kept and none of the other stuff one has to go through trying to get a woman to give up the booty. Except, yeah - there are guys who are so picky that they can make women look easy to have sex with. Guys reject other guys, too, and for some of the "silliest" reasons - and I've heard a lot of them. As such, a lot of guys might resort to this kind of sex and think it's a slam dunk... and still find themselves being ignored and/or rejected. Just keeping it real...
Skeeter 60
Sep 7, 2020, 7:25 PM
I'm trying my best to
playful808
Sep 7, 2020, 10:47 PM
I have ignored and rejected women who play games and make every meeting a transaction.
"Making it complicated does not make is more meaningful."
Jazminedress
Sep 7, 2020, 11:21 PM
I have ignored and rejected women who play games and make every meeting a transaction.
"Making it complicated does not make is more meaningful."
sometimes I think a simple financial transaction would be much simpler than all the other BS
LowkeyBreeze318
Sep 10, 2020, 12:55 PM
Sometimes I get attention from females if I seek it sometimes I don’t. Most days I didn’t get attention, but back then I didn’t resort to chasing after guys. Now lately I have been chasing guys looking for fun with them, but hasn’t happened yet.