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gotenough
May 14, 2015, 9:14 AM
I recently meet a sweet older man with a very thin frame he dressed very feminine and was very sexy. During our foreplay he never got an erection he told me he had ED and preferred to be used. I enjoyed his talents very much. my question is does a sub with ED a problem for anyone.
fredtyg
May 14, 2015, 11:21 AM
If you're the top type of guy that is mostly interested in getting sucked or screwing the other guy, should be no problem. I'm not, so it would be. I'm also E challenged, so two guys not getting hard would be a problem. I can get it up, just not as well as I used to.
If I had the dick I had 40 years ago, I wouldn't really care so much if the other guy stayed soft.
gotenough
May 14, 2015, 11:45 AM
on our second encounter he had a hollow shafted strap on which was nice he still cums but you miss the feeling of a nice hard cock in your mouth
jem_is_bi
May 14, 2015, 11:43 PM
There are injectable medications (alprostadil) that will get anyone's dick hard and fun to play with for hours.
Christopher South
May 15, 2015, 12:06 PM
I'm more vers and have been meeting up with a guy who has ED. Yeah, I'd prefer a hard cock but I still enjoy sucking him and he still cums
olmizzou42
May 15, 2015, 1:12 PM
As long as he's doing what he wants and you're both enjoying being together...no problem. I have a FWB who couldn't get hard if his life depended on it. He loves giving head and is really good at it. Usually he wants no recip, but once in a while I suck his soft cock until he comes...because I love giving head and I'm good at it.
Following a radical prostatectomy last Oct, I now have incontinence issues and am also now in the severe ED category. ED hell, impotent! Because of the severity of my cancer, significant sphincter and nerve damage was done. I can get hard enough using a pump to masturbate but not penetrate. And, unless I can find someone willing to suck a continuously piss dripping cock, jacking off will be it for me until (hopefully, fingers crossed) the nerves regenerate.
Yeah, I can see myself becoming the "sweet older man" who enjoys being used.
Dunmor
May 15, 2015, 6:15 PM
Usually not an issue, I have met bottoms who had issues and preferred simply to be a bottom...
Rvdude05
Nov 20, 2019, 12:55 AM
I have a friend, age 78 who has erectile dysfunction. He can't get hard after he had cancer surgery and they removed some of his nerves. He can feel with his cock, enjoys jerking off his soft cock. Well, he has discovered male sex and prefers to suck and let others fuck his man hole. He asks for no recip. He sometimes will let someone suck or jerk his soft cock, and he cums. He just is embarassed that his cock is soft forever. Just wanted to let you know, my friend with benefits, has been sucking on me for years....
Long Duck Dong
Nov 20, 2019, 2:12 AM
my older male lover has ED issues.....ok so he can not get hard but he can still feel, so in the shower I will do things like put shaving cream in my hand and stroke him, massaging his balls,
laying on the bed hold his cock in my mouth and hum so he gets the gentle vibration.....
just cos he can not get hard, does not mean that he can can not feel so we are working on ways to change his sexual state of mind.... I have done hypnotherapy so we have used that as well as role playing to create the " illusion " that he is still hard and erect and because its mental and emotional, more than physical he has said it is more intense, tho it is different from fucking with a hard erect cock......
unfortunately the clock is ticking for him, he has advanced metastatic cancer with a estimated time frame of 6 months max, but remarkably no pain so hes getting all the loving and pleasure that myself, our two female lovers and our intersex female lover can give him.....
Neonaught
Nov 20, 2019, 11:05 AM
There are injectable medications (alprostadil) that will get anyone's dick hard and fun to play with for hours.
I agree with Jem! With all the methods available now ED CAN be addressed. We had a MFM? encounter with one of my preop trans buddies one night and he had injected Caverjectio beofre arriving and stayed rock hard for 5 hours!
Neonaught
Nov 20, 2019, 11:06 AM
As long as he's doing what he wants and you're both enjoying being together...no problem. I have a FWB who couldn't get hard if his life depended on it. He loves giving head and is really good at it. Usually he wants no recip, but once in a while I suck his soft cock until he comes...because I love giving head and I'm good at it.
Following a radical prostatectomy last Oct, I now have incontinence issues and am also now in the severe ED category. ED hell, impotent! Because of the severity of my cancer, significant sphincter and nerve damage was done. I can get hard enough using a pump to masturbate but not penetrate. And, unless I can find someone willing to suck a continuously piss dripping cock, jacking off will be it for me until (hopefully, fingers crossed) the nerves regenerate.
Yeah, I can see myself becoming the "sweet older man" who enjoys being used.
As a 2-time head and neck cancer survivor my heart goes out to you!
buds50
Nov 21, 2019, 8:17 AM
ive started useing the injections again after 10 years of no hard ons, not the greatest feeling sticking a needle inyour prick but it sure works , im 68 now and last sat i fucked my wife and her gf 67/66, and came in her gf mouth after fucking them both and the gf fucked her ass not bad lol. also there is a treatment that works on a lot of men ultrasonic waves on your cock, opens the blood vessels and grows new ones, very pricy but seems to work , anyone in Ontario Canada check out the mens sexual health clinic google it , they are doing it for 99 dollars a treatment with 6 usually needed another clinic peak health for men wanted 5 grand
cleves
Nov 27, 2019, 8:00 AM
I am a submissive with ED and the cocks I suck don't seem to mind.
chongster
Nov 29, 2019, 2:18 PM
Sometimes my guy gets shy with a new lover, happened to me once with a hot Asian guy. Very embarrassing! We got through it, got the boy up and had a great time after.
I never wanted that to happen again so I ordered some on-line Viagra and always pop one ahead of time with a male lover. Never have a problem with my wife though.
That Viagra induced cock gets hard like it was 20 again though! I take one for the wife once in awhile to just for fun.
The guys that I hook up with are all much younger than I am so I have always had hard cocks to enjoy while I fuck ass.
dowmass
May 2, 2020, 7:30 PM
I wanted to add my perspective to the ED ISSUE. I bottomed twice, and the first time, I was hard as a rock - My top jerked me off while he was fucking me in a spooning position after which the fun was all gone (He didn't cum for almost an hour and had to jerk himself off). The second time I wasn't hard, but had a rocking time because every time my top would massage my prostrate, I was getting mind blowing orgasms,
I have a prescription for TRIMIX, and am waiting to use on the wife. I hear that the erections can be rock solid and one does not go soft after he cums,
Grant_Norman
May 2, 2020, 8:58 PM
E.D. bottom here...my cock has been limp since I really have become actively bi...still have swallowed over 100 loads of cum and plan to swallow a whole lot more. E.D. is a pain, but it hasn't been a problem for my mouth or ass.
mr bill
May 2, 2020, 11:09 PM
lost my wife to cancer 3 weeks ago. it still hurts. my heart goes out to you
jancharles
May 3, 2020, 12:34 AM
does not always work with diabetics...
smallandbi
Sep 11, 2024, 11:25 AM
Not had a full erection for over 30 years. The only downside is that the darn thing has now completely shrivelled up. If it is cold it goes into hibernation, much to the amusement of my wife.
DD788Snipe
Sep 12, 2024, 4:47 AM
As a 2-time head and neck cancer survivor my heart goes out to you!
Same here. Cancer sucks!!!
KDaddy23
Sep 14, 2024, 12:41 AM
Same here. Cancer sucks!!!
You said it right...
trs50ms
Sep 14, 2024, 8:21 AM
Most of the guys I met on Silverdaddies like me have ED issues, but I still enjoy sucking their soft cocks. One regular bud would use a strapon on me and after I cum, I would hang my head off the edge of the bed and he would fuck my mouth with his soft cock. I would suck on it until he gave me his load. It was fun. But a hard dick is always better when you can get it!!
fredward
Sep 16, 2024, 8:06 PM
https://bisexual.com/forum/images/styles/lifeElement/misc/quote_icon.png Originally Posted by DD788Snipe https://bisexual.com/forum/images/styles/lifeElement/buttons/viewpost-right.png (https://bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?p=383633#post383633)
Same here. Cancer sucks!!!
You said it right...
Amen, my brothers.