New guy here. Some questions...

[anonshine12]

Came to the realization some time back that I was "different". Now that I'm married(happily), I've tried some stuff with the Mrs, but...well here I am.

My question is how did you guys find the right one to experiment with? I really am not into the NSA craigslist scene and I'm not good at making friends/meeting new people. For now, I don't want to tell my wife about this. It was hard for me to tell her I like anal play, and telling her I want a real dick is horrifying.

[pole_smoker]

Instead of cheating on your wife, and lying to her tell her how you are bisexual and want to have sex with a man...either with her there, or with her not there.

[anonshine12]

Because I'm not sure I am, and because it is a big deal to me.

[pole_smoker]

Because I'm not sure I am, and because it is a big deal to me.
You're certainly not heterosexual/straight if you want to look for a guy to be your side-piece or booty call, and cheat on your wife with, or if you've already cheated on her with a guy, are thinking about cheating on her with a guy, or have had sexual experiences with the same gender in the past.

If you actually love your wife, value your marriage, and care about her you'll sit down and have a talk with her and tell her how you're bisexual and want to have sex with a man. It's the right thing to do.

[iwantamouthfull]

If you have got her playing with your ass just keep adding a little more. Start begging her to fuck as she is playing with your ass and maybe eventually slide a dildo in your mouth under the pretense of getting it ready for your ass.

[pole_smoker]

If you have got her playing with your ass just keep adding a little more. Start begging her to fuck as she is playing with your ass and maybe eventually slide a dildo in your mouth under the pretense of getting it ready for your ass.
Do this, and then just man up and tell her how you're bisexual.

[fredtyg]

The most recent guy I used to play around with was a guy I knew for some time. He'd gotten on my nerves, actually, as he'd been coming by and bumming stuff from me over and over again- some times multiple times a day. But I developed the hots for him as he was one of the rare guys I've found sexually attractive.

One day, after I'd pretty much become comfortable with my homosexual side, I decided I had to tell him I was queer. I was hot for his bod but mostly just wanted to get it out and off my chest to someone who was around all the time.

One warm summer day he came over and actually stuck around for a while. We were out in the garage drinking beer. I manipulated the conversation to sex, and then to blow jobs. He seemed relaxed and to be enjoying the discussion so finally I just let it drop that I loved sucking cock. He seemed pleased that I was willing to take him into my confidence, so I continued. Had he not seemed comfortable with it at that point, I would have changed the subject.

I went on to tell him about a lot of m2m I'd done, that I'd missed it and wished I could do it more often. He replied that I needed a "fuck buddy" and that he might be willing to help out in that regard. He also admitted he'd done some m2m before although he didn't give specifics.

Worked out well and we did end up fooling around, at least for a while until I screwed it up.

So I always say look at who you know first. Don't proposition them or make them feel put on the spot. Just let it drop you like m2m, or at least are bisexual and let them take the next step. Seems to me most guys, myself included, end up fooling around with guys they knew for other reasons first. It's just a matter of finding out if they're into, or would consider, m2m. Just do it in a way that they don't feel pressured or put on the spot.