Being in love and what to do.

[Mysticality]

Life is very difficult for me right now. I spent a week at my best friends house whom i've known most of my life. My therapist thinks that it would be a good idea for me to move near him,but I'm not sure that is such a great idea. When I am with him I let my guard down and forget about who I am when I am not with him. I don't know if I am who i'm suppose to be when I am with him or when I'm away from him. It is very confusing for me.

As everyone does at one point or another in their life, I am searching for answers and figuring out who I am. I thought I already knew who I was but I don't anymore. I wish I could have the answers to my dilema but I don't. I have not been able to make a decision about where I want to live for quite some time and as soon as I think I have made a decision I go back on it.

I have als finally got off of a roller coaster ride with my now x-boyfriend. And now I question being in love with my best friend. I can picture being in a relationship with him but when I do, I tell myself that isn't for me, but I think that is due to my fear of rejection. He has been in my life for the majority of it and knows everything there is to know about me. But what is one to do when one feels lost and doesn't know what to do?

[AnotherVoice]

Are you in love with your best friend? How does he feel about you?

[Haemoglobin]

You said ... "But what is one to do when one feels lost and doesn't know what to do?" .. i think youre Therapist should have some better sugestions then moving close to your crush... and 2 . i think he should have an answer to that question .

The fear of rejection i guess is what youre already working out with your therapist . . i dont think any of us can help but i think many of us feel the same way . Though im personally already in a relationship i can sometimes still feel lower than my guy .. and so forth .

The only way i guess to solve this issues with yourself is your therapie anyways . and also you should first before you make a move on someone know if you at all want that person yourself. you dont seem to sure...

and btw... welcome to the forum !! :bibounce:

[Long Duck Dong]

Mysticality, hugs ya

many of us know what its like to be * lost * and trying to finding ourselves

what many of us don't know is that we already know who we are.... but we are in the stage of redefining ourselves... applying new * makeup * and * clothes * to see what fits...the make up and clothes are like outer images of how we present ourselves, both to ourselves and the outside world

you use a lot of logic v's common sense thinking and thats where most people go belly up, its a bit like the logic v's the heart arguement

part of the voyage to self discovery can take ya whole life.... cos you are constantly changing.... each day brings new understanding, experiences, knowledge and learning

now, as for you best friend / therapist issue.... sit down, and write on a piece of paper, the pros and cons...like employment, nightlife, friends and family etc, and work out how YOU feel about each one......the therapist can only work with what you tell them..... only you can live your live, and so you need to make the best decision based on your wants and needs

[taz67156]

the first thing you need to do is figure out who you are and what you want and need before you can do anything else and if somebody thinks you should move closer to your friend then maybe they see something that your over looking right now.

How do you really feel about your friend is it love or lust for him?
we all get rejected at some point in our life so thats something normal to expect when your thinking about getting together with someone but it does make it harder when its a friend that you really care alot about and want a relationship with.

life is about takeing risks either you do or don't but you always will have a risk I took a risk when I decided to get married to kitten cause we have been friends for along time and if something ever happened it could cost our friendship. TAZ67156