Who here is married for more than 25 years and bi-curious

[curmwm57]

I have been married for 33 years and always had a bit of an interest in what it might be like to perform oral on another guy. When I was younger (like most guys I think) there were occasions where I might have been more apt to try something if it weren't so taboo.

Now after 33 years of marriage and the invent of the internet and access to so much porn, my curiosity has become almost an obsession. I see some bi MMF films and all I can think is how much I would like to be involved in something like that. I am not interested in full blown (no pun intended) gay relationship, but I am interested in maybe eating my wife while she is being fucked by another guy and performing oral on the guy and maybe even a little more but really the curiosity is killing me...

I think I would be excellent at it. Could NEVER bring up the subject with the wife though, so not thinking I will ever cross it off my bucket list...

How many more guys out there are in the same boat as me?

[12voltyV2.0]

You will find that there are many guys in your same situation.

One word of caution--over the years--this site has been the target of a set of either random "trolls" who find us and come here to vex us---or we have one or a few who come and bother us who have done so for years--at the moment--we are being so troubled and the current offending names that are the worst are Lansana's Priestess and BiVirgo.25---so do not be surprised or upset if you get posts from one or both of these "people" making some sort of negative comment about what you have said---even though under this name it seems I am a recent member of the site--actually I had to take a new name because of some computer problems and loss of my old password---so I want to welcome you here--and don't let the village idiot or idiots scare you off---most people here are pretty good---also--I do think that NMCowboys is also that same troll---so be forewarned about him too.

You may want to consider adding these "people" to an ignore list you can set up. Sorry to welcome you on such a sour note---but I do hope you find answers to your questions about all of this.

[curmwm57]

Thank You for the heads up...Much appreciated. I will certainly keep that in mind.

Thanks again.

[a2smith09]

Welcum, I've actually been married almost 20 years and I'm bisexual, took me a while to realize it and come to terms with it.

[JustinW]

Married for 28 years. I have been craving sex with a man for about ten years now. Kids are grown and wife seems indifferent to sex. I decided that this is something I am going to try. Now to find the right man. That will be a challenge although there are plenty of guys who will readily agree to anything. I intend to be choosy.

[Java555]

Married 28 yrs

[notmacbi]

I'm with you all... Married 27 yrs... Told my beautiful wife last year. We play with the scene a lot. Mine is mostly oral. Would love to have my wife tease a hung stud while I suck him off. Also love the thought of licking and sucking them both while he fucks her. This never fails to excite me.

[fredtyg]

The thing about online bi porn is really true. I've heard from countless guys who became comfortable with their bi or homosexuality after finding online porn. I'm the same way, although I'd become fairly accepting of myself as queer before that. Once I found so many other guys in the same boat as I was I very much embraced the homosexual side of myself. Welcome to the club, curmwm!

[pete7]

same here, 26 years

[twilde1952]

I've been married for 28 years now, bi-curious for awhile now since our sex life has never been great but now it's infrequent. The thought of taking a nice cock in my mouth and sucking a load is hot... it's definitely on my bucket list...

[curious44]

Still on the first wife. Married at 21, now almost 70. Started having sex with other boys in Jr. High. Love my wife but guys always seemed to excite me more than women.
First wife is fine with it.

[bigtime2013]

34 yrs here, been sucking before married and luv em, soo great to deep throat and swallow

[liberlib]

Married 44 years and still in love with her. The bi interest is relatively recent and a surprise to me as I had no indications of it earlier but find the male contact important without diminishing from my enjoyment with her.

[Wolf_Sr]

Married 32 years. Bi-curious for some 10 years, still looking for reliable friends to try a bit of everything, clean and safe.
Hugs

[nipers]

Married 27 now .Gave it a try at 25 years. Very hot and fun to do now and then

[bitrucker64]

married 26 yrs so far, not curious anymore.......lol. lots of fun times

[punxatawneyphil]

Married 40 plus years, still in love.

[elian]

If you do anything risky like anal sex insist on using condoms..it's a lot better to be safe than sorry.


Married for 28 years. I have been craving sex with a man for about ten years now. Kids are grown and wife seems indifferent to sex. I decided that this is something I am going to try. Now to find the right man. That will be a challenge although there are plenty of guys who will readily agree to anything. I intend to be choosy.

[tenni]

Elian
I am curious as to why you selected JustinW over those who are posting pictures with cum oozing out of an anus to deliver your use a condoms message to?

[mbrag]

Married 30 years, crazily playing with guys for a little over a month now.

[kenjacks51]

I have been married now for close to 25 years and actively bi for the last five or so years now. My love for my wife has not diminished at all despite her loss of interest in sex thanks to the curse of menopause. Shehas been aware for years that I have bi interests and while we have not discussed it, I am pretty sure that she at least suspects that I have made the transition from straight to bi. Initially, when I first crossedover, there were some guilt issues but those are pretty much gone along with a lot of the stress that was in our marriage over her not wanting sex as often as I hungered for it. Now, I am involved in a closed loop relationship with two special friends who I see alternately ( yes, they know of each other and we'll all likely get together in the forseeable future for some fun ) every few weeks and what happens is so intense that it satisfies me for some time. Any regrets? Not realy. I am still in love with my wonderful wife and will be with her for the rest of my liife or as long as she will have me. Sex with another guy is definitley satisfying and honestly, I have been curious for many years and the sex is so much better than I ever thought it could be. I contribute the level of peasure to the fact that we are friends as well as playmates and that friendship results in mutual trust and respect. It is a good arrangement that I hope never ends.

[tastycreampie]

I was married 22 years when I was having a beer with a gay friend. He brushed my crotch as he walked by and I told him not to start anything he wouldn't finish. He sucked me for about 10 minutes and I j/o'd in his mouth. The next day I went back and returned the favor. When he told me hes was cumming I took as much of his cock in my mouth as I could and swallowed every drop. We've exchanged BJ's about a dozen times in 4 years. Now I want him to penetrate me and dump his load deep inside me. The Mrs. is VERY conservative. So I need to be very discrete, so this has yet to be worked out, but I think about it daily. And when she and I have sex I fantasize about him doing me. Occasionally she'll do me with a small vibe, but I want the real deal, complete with cream. Anytime I want a little fantasy that's kind of real, I get on my inversion table and give my self a facial.

[CurEUs_Male]

As you can see, you are not alone. It almost feels like the whole of mankind will eventually be posting here in some fashion!

I've been married 22+ years, and only discovered my bi side in my 40's. It has been a rocky road, to say the least, in opening up to my wife about these new feelings. She has been hurt, but through proper support channels is able to accept me for who I am. We are working on my getting out and experiencing more of the activities that consume my fantasy life. It is not easy, but I have talked with enough guys that kept it hidden only to be discovered later when the bi thing (TBT) is overshadowed by cheating and deceit. my opinion is to find a way to share with your spouse. Engage her to be included in the redefinition of marriage, so she has a stake in the future with you. It seem, as with regularly available porn, that technology is a foe as well as a friend. Your fantasy of eating your wife while she is being penetrated by another guy is a favorite of mine. It was, in fact, one of the activities I enjoyed on my first encounter with another cock - my wife set that up for me... I will cherish the memory of that 69+1 for the rest of my life...

Congratulations on finding this part of yourself.


Al

[larcstar]

Nicely put Ken. I definitely can relate. I first discovered by bi side at Wreck Beach in the 90's when I was attending UBC. I really do miss that place. I met some wonderful people. I've been married 37 years to the same beautiful person. I really do enjoy our sex life but would love to have a "special male friend". Maybe some day. Hope to be back in BC some day. Cheers.

[cnjbimm]

married 45 years

[bigtime2013]

34 here, and enjoy my bi side. I enjoy the times with another man, luv to carress suck and kiss between the legs!

[SeanLiz]

Married 25 years, came out to her a while ago and she has said go for it! We have an amazing sex life but I am looking to explore my big side.

[bigtime2013]

good for you, cock is ausum down throat, let me know how it goes, u r a lucky man to have such an understanding wife

[LizaLynn]

I have been married for 33 years and always had a bit of an interest in what it might be like to perform oral on another guy. When I was younger (like most guys I think) there were occasions where I might have been more apt to try something if it weren't so taboo.

Now after 33 years of marriage and the invent of the internet and access to so much porn, my curiosity has become almost an obsession. I see some bi MMF films and all I can think is how much I would like to be involved in something like that. I am not interested in full blown (no pun intended) gay relationship, but I am interested in maybe eating my wife while she is being fucked by another guy and performing oral on the guy and maybe even a little more but really the curiosity is killing me...

I think I would be excellent at it. Could NEVER bring up the subject with the wife though, so not thinking I will ever cross it off my bucket list...

How many more guys out there are in the same boat as me?

It is more common than you would expect. I own an adult chat service, many of our clients are older, married men with thoughts and fantasies just like yours. It is so sad that married men can't share their fantasies and desires with their wives. If someone told me 15 years ago, how many bicurious men there are roaming the earth while keep their secret under wraps, I wouldn't have believed it.

[JackTexas94]

I've been married forever too. I've been bi as long as I can remember but it seems like it has been in the last few years I have come to accept the different facets of who I am...bisexual and atheist. Right now I would like to find a like minded intellectually stimulating friend that I can "connect" to more than just for sex and sex talk...although that part is nice too ;)

[Hatt94]

I've been married for 23 yrs, and have thought about this for quite a few. I only acted on it a couple years ago. My wife knows nothing of this, although we have talked about a 3some, and I said MMF would be the best, as she would get more enjoyment. I doubt it will happen, but you never know.

[goldenfinger]

I'm in

[rockhard123]

38 here an the wife told me she wont to have a three sum 12 year's ago
wow

[cbj4162]

Married 10 years this time and 18 years 1st time. I have some experience with playing with guys, mostly orally, more in the past than recently. I really love and enjoy it!
Hot mutual oral between 2 masc men = Yes! I love sucking more than anything! and want it again! Good luck with your search for a good bud.

[Man for Man]

I've been married 33 years, and it was a couple of years ago that I decided if I was going to experience what my body was telling me I needed I better before it was to late. I was 54 at the time, hadn't had any sexual contact with my wife for well over a year. Some will think I'm immoral, don't care. I've found a man who has become a close friend, and the sex is very good. It took a while to find the right guy, I made a couple of poor choices, but acknowledged that these men weren't offering what I was looking for and ended each of them fairly quickly. Had actually given up on men, when one night after several months of not looking at ads, I found him, and yes it was on Craigs List. He wrote an ad that spoke to me. We haven't looked back since.

[newporter4u]

I've been married 36 years, guess my curiosity got stronger when I was in my forties and decided I need to explore it before I got too old. Still exploring whenever I can but seems to be tough to find those in my area.

[Garyb]

42 yrs. Feel the same about my bride. Ivve kept these feelings to myself, but coming to the conclusion that I am who I am. I wish I had a fmiend in whom we could have a loving but discreet relationship.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I've been happily-married for 42 years to a wonderful woman who is very sexual and has a number of kinks, herself. We have had several experiences with swinging and I found myself enjoying MFM and watching her with another man more than being with another woman when we played. It didn't take long until I decided that watching her with another man was what excited me most about swinging, but the desire for sexual contact with the other male didn't occur immediately.

I've enjoyed wearing hosiery in-private moments for most of my life, secretly wishing that I'd been born female, but remained accepting of the biology and lived quite contently as a prototypical-male, husband and father. I don't recall every seriously considering a bisexual encounter of any type, but I did on rare occasions wonder what it would be like to suck a cock. It wasn't a strong desire, more a curiosity. The thought wasn't at all 'repulsive' to me, but it was something that I never imagined would ever play out. The fact that I have a 'feminine side' seemed stronger than any bisexual feelings at the time. I could see myself embracing the feminine role in a sexual adventure more than I could imagine myself as a male playing with another man, despite the obvious fact that there's same-gender sex is same-gender sex with little regard to what's going on inside my brain...

One day about 5 years ago, we were in an MFM scenario. My wife was on the end of our pedestal bed with her legs spread, and the other guy was on his knees on the floor, busily licking her pussy. I was standing next to him, enjoying the view. To my surprise, he turned his head to me and before I knew it, my cock was in his mouth. He sucked for just a bit, and then went back to eating out my wife. I was stunned. In our conversations, he professed to be straight, although that wasn't a serious top of discussion. So it was a shock to find myself on the receiving end of a mini-blowjob from another male. Another thing that surprised me was that it didn't make me feel weird or creepy. As far as I'm concerned, it feels good to have your cock sucked, and it doesn't matter who's doing it as long as the other person knows what he or she is doing!

It didn't go any further than that on that occasion, but he did return for another adventure with my wife sometime later, and I got my first experience, briefly performing as a 'fluffer' to get him hard before he went upstairs to fuck her. When I took his cock into my mouth, I loved it instantly! It was textural delight -- the soft, ridged head contrasted with the firm, smooth shaft were a huge turn-on. Although it was only a couple of minutes, I knew that I wanted to do this again sometime!

I had another abbreviated experience in a swap scenario, and I told my wife that it may happen, because the other guy and I had discussed it beforehand. When the time came, we each sucked each other a little, but spent most of our time concentrating on the ladies.

The next time, the wife and I went to a spa with another guy for a hot tub soak. We had also discussed male-male contact beforehand so I anticipated getting some more cock-sucking experience. When the three of us got in the tub and began to interact a little, I grabbed his cock under the water as we stood in a circle. I explained that my wife had just had oral surgery and wasn't available to suck his cock, and that I'd have to stand in for her. The three of us began to explore our bodies, and my wife eventually ended up on deck outside the tub with his head buried between her legs, performing cunnilingus. I slid beneath him as he stood on the steps, and took him into my mouth, my head just barely above the bubbling water. It was a wonderful experience! Before long, I felt his cock pulse, which I recognized as him being close to orgasm. I tasted some of his salty discharge, but it wasn't a full-on orgasm. Later, we talked about it and he said that he tried his best to hold back, because he wasn't sure how I'd feel about him cumming in my mouth. I wasn't sure beforehand, myself, but this cleared up the issue in my mind: I want to suck cock, I want to be good at it, and I want to fully satisfy the subject of my attention.

We played another time as a 3-some in our bed at home. On that occasion, I sucked him again, but he saved his orgasm for my wife's pussy. Afterwards, he jerked me off as my wife lay beside us, watching. After the prolonged foreplay, I orgasmed, and produced a fairly impressive gush of cum for somebody my age, which he commented on. (It was a turn-on for him.)

My wife has been backing away from playing outside our marriage like this, so we've not been able to get together again for MFM or MMF. I was able to play with him one more time, in a strictly M-M scenario. I enjoyed wearing my panties and stockings while sucking his cock, and then eagerly took him in my ass as I experienced a real cock in me for the first time, after a few butt-plug adventures in the past, usually at my own hand, but occasionally put there by my wife. After his orgasm, he knelt before me as I masturbated into his mouth. In a subtle, but demonstrable illustration that we're both basically 'straight', we shook hands when he left.

Neither of us is innately attracted to men. There's no hugging or kissing. If I'm walking down the street and see a handsome man, I don't 'want him'. But when we're behind closed doors and there are naked male and female body parts available for play, I want to play with them all! I adore women and am attracted to them. But I embrace my bi side and would love to have many more experiences while I'm still capable of performing. I'm still a good husband, father and grandfather. I'm still a decent citizen. And I like sexual contact with other men.

[Java555]

Been married 28 years and told my wife 3 years ago. She is ok with it but does not get involved. I started when i was arround 12 me and a freiend would blow each other and we liked it. I love my wife and we have a good relationship. Have one friend i see every few months for sex. And its all good

[BJ Hunter]

Married 37 years, and like many here, as my wife has gone into menopause, sex is not what is used to be. I have since discovered the fun of oral with other married guys, like myself, and we sometimes get together for a little M2M suck. We both enjoy an earth shattering orgasm, and then go our separate ways until the next time we can get together.

[Java555]

Sounds lile my life

[edgrant]

Married twice for a total of 31 years. Became very aroused after opening Penthouse Letters only to discover it was their Boy-Boy section. The seed was planted and the bi-curiosity has just gotten stronger and stronger.

Married over 25 years and bi-curious? YES!!

[Tatalvr]

I'm in the same boat. The same urges hit me right around our 25th.

[onewhocares]

It is more common than you would expect. I own an adult chat service, many of our clients are older, married men with thoughts and fantasies just like yours. It is so sad that married men can't share their fantasies and desires with their wives. If someone told me 15 years ago, how many bicurious men there are roaming the earth while keep their secret under wraps, I wouldn't have believed it.

Hi Liza,

I so agree with you. I belong to a few Yahoo groups and the increase in membership is amazing. It is great when men can share their fantasies, desires and wanting a man with their wives. I think if they cant share this part of themselves with the woman they love they are missing out. But, I do understand that not all women are like me open and non judgemental.

For another point, I do not understand why SO SO many women loose their interest in sex. It is no wonder that so many men stray from their marriages. Just my two cents.

Belle in Boston

[Ja&Ve]

If I lose interest in sex, hubby better make sure I haven't died. I wear HIM out lol. Seriously though, If I start to lose interest my happy clappy ass is hitting up the doctor!!-V

[larry3815]

Married 24 yrs. Had my cock sucked in high school and I returned the favor still luv to have a cock in my mouth or have same done to me.

[Fzmr9t]

Married 35 years, have been BI for the last 10-12 years. Some could argue that I've been all my life, but it only became apparent to me around that time frame.

[DoneGone275]

Exact same boat. Married for 28 years and always wanted to try it.

[Rac111]

Count me in

[Str8guy]

I've never been married, straight as an arrow,but at 54 I'm getting strong urge to get a cock in my mouth.married, cut cock in particular. And never having done it I. Know what to do because I have one (a cock)myself!! WTF??? Still luv tits though!!!!

[Backdoorman]

Getting close to the big 25 just at 20 years. I have been bi I would say since I was in 5th grade. That is the time I played in the showers with another friend at the country club swimming pool shower area. We just that it was fund and no idea what Bi was in those days. I am now 50 and since I was 40 I have actively enjoying my Bi side.

[Neonaught]

We have been married 28 years and we left "curious" behind long ago! We're both bi and love being with other couples and having bi threesomes. Had a lovely FMF time last night. For those who's wives have lost interest in sex due to menopause I highly recommend looking into hormone replacement therapy. It can be a real sex life saver! My Baby was prescribed Estrogen replacement med but didn't like the reputation it a among it's users. She now uses a plant-based Estrogen ream that works very well and is nonprescription. Consult your doctor before attempting this.

[bigtime2013]

been married for 34 yrs, and enjoy giving a good bj, totally like em

[JackTexas94]

Been married forever too and am bi. No, you are not alone.