Masturbation or Penetration?

[Spicy]

I am wondering how many of our male friends settle for masturbation by your wives/ partner if the wife/partner is say tired or not in the "mood." Is slow masturbation, that is when you are being stroked and cum drop at a time more enjoyable than penetration. I find this very enjoyable, even more enjoyable than peneration. Any comments please?

[fiesty!]

if partner is too tired not in mood - she tells me to wank myself - so she can sleep - seams fair to me - we get both good nite sleep then

[Sparks]

Mates, or, partners feel the comfort of each other first. Whatever happens afterwords is called sharing. :2cents:

[oldcalhippie]

I try to include penetration in my masterbation when I can :tongue:

[Long Duck Dong]

mmm interesting question lol

personally I beleive sex is a experience of sharing... and if my partner is too tired, not in the mood or unable to have sex....well I am not afraid to crank the hand pump....tho I do find that some partners have struggled with the idea that I am cool with it... I spent a good deal of my teen years spanking the monkey and I can't see why it should change now that I can have sex more...my partners are not sex machines lol

the most fun I have with wanking is actually not sexual....lol....if i can't sleep, I will have a wank and about 5 minutes afterwards, the sleep hormones generally start to kick in...( i suffer from insomnia ) so imagine turning to ya partner and asking for a lil bit of help to have a wank cos you can't get to sleep.... wanking by yourself = fun....wanking with ya partner = heaven ...wanking to cure a headache or get to sleep ??? = priceless

[DiamondDog]

I consider mutual masturbation, or even just masturbating together to be sex.

[Biboz49]

Masturbation, whether by ourselves alone, by ourselves together or masturbating each other is a big part of our sex life. It's not all we do but we both love it and so what else matters? :bigrin:

[OralBradley]

At 77 I require a injection of hormones to get my penis erect so that it will penetrate my wife's vagina, and that is a serious interuption of any mood that we have achieved. If I give my cock the injection earlier, it removes an spontieity from the process. Lighting candles in the room is a signal that ameliorates the problem, but there are many things that can reduce the pleasure of penetration. One is lack of stamina to contunue thrusting long enough for either of to have an orgasm--estreemely frustrating!
On the other hand (or perhaps in it), masturbation can be leisurely way for us both to enjoy sex. Olive oil makes a fine lubricant that unlike and commercial ones we have found, tastes good. Oral sex can easily be combined with masturbation (I have fantacised licking while pentrating, but that is not possible for a couple alone though it was delightful in a 3-some).
Because the glans of the clitoris is too sensiteve for direct simulation with fingers, I have found that stroking the outside of the clitoral shat with between a finger and thumb to be quite satisfying for both of us. She will very quickly reach an orgasm that way. With lots of the olive oil for lubricant, I caan insert two, and often three) fingers into her vagina and touch her cervix or the back of her clitoral mass (the G-spot) while I suck on her clit for another (or more) orgasms.
She then enjoys holding me and sucking my nipples while she watches me masturbate, and we both have a VERY satisfying time of it.
Another alternate to penetration is for my wife to read sexually explicit stories while I kiss and suck her toes and lick her thighs and pussy.

[Woody]

Sometimes my wife is happy to jerk me off with no expectation of more sex.At the same time if she is not in the mood I feel comfortable to jump in the shower usually and do the job myself.Morning boners almost always lead to self satisfaction.I feel very ok with masturbating in front of her after all 99% of guys get themselves off and the other 1% lie.We are old enough and have been together long enough to realise that the sex we don't get today will still be available tomorrow.We respect each others space when it's required.
A fast\slow hand pull or penetration,it's all good.But the blowjob wins hands down.

[crowznest]

I consider mutual masturbation, or even just masturbating together to be sex.
yep!!

[jedinudist]

I believe that not all sex involves penetration. There have been times when my beloved has not felt well enough or energetic enough for intercourse and has lovingly masturbated me. It is obviously completely different than when I do it for myself and it is quite enjoyable. I have done the same for her. I consider it part of our sexual relationship. It's complimentary to penatrative intercourse, another entree on our sexual menue.

[curiousguy2005]

Sometimes my wife is happy to jerk me off with no expectation of more sex.At the same time if she is not in the mood I feel comfortable to jump in the shower usually and do the job myself.Morning boners almost always lead to self satisfaction.I feel very ok with masturbating in front of her after all 99% of guys get themselves off and the other 1% lie.We are old enough and have been together long enough to realise that the sex we don't get today will still be available tomorrow.We respect each others space when it's required.
A fast\slow hand pull or penetration,it's all good.But the blowjob wins hands down.

Totally agree with this; also with the morning wood thing, not because she's not interested, but often because she's having to go to work or real life calls. :(

[espy20]

Masturbation gets boring for me after awhile. I think my body has gotten use to only one thing, in order for me to reach orgasm. I use my fingers and my vibrator but it always ends the same way...same, exact feeling....and it gets boring. My b/f does not masturbate for me, I prefer it that way. In the past I have enjoyed other men masturbating for me, but now that I have a psuedo marriage with my current b/f I find it uncomfortable watching him jerk it.
I must say that I absolutely enjoy him fingering me...we've managed to inserted all fingers from one hand inside my pussy and I have found that vigorous penetration with his hand can definitely get me off. So for you girls who don't think excessive fingering or 'fisting' is a turn on...just try it...go slow and you'll learn to love it!